June 17, 2010 at 12:21 pm , by Lisa M. Gerry
Last year was a wild one for Tori Spelling. She was a tabloid target, with speculations about an eating disorder (which she firmly denies), a rocky marriage, and the on-again, off-again feud with her mom. But despite the negative press, she says, “I am so appreciative of everything that’s happened in my life.” And Spelling, 37, certainly isn’t slowing down. She’s bringing her proclivity for perfectionism to some new projects: In addition to Tori and Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood, she has a new show in the works, Tori and Dean: Weddings, a children’s fashion line called Little Maven—and now—her third book, Uncharted TerriTORI.
You’re one busy lady. When do you find time to write?
[Laughs] It’s hard. I write during naptime or at night once the kids go to bed. I have a really good memory and I remember every detail of every story, but after my second book when something funny or interesting would happen, I started writing it in my Blackberry.
The tone of Uncharted TerriTORI is different than your others. It seems that all of your success has also caused you quite a bit of stress. How do you decompress?
Watching my kids makes everything go away. Dean has hobbies and he always tells me, “You need a hobby.” And I’m like, “Why would I need to go somewhere and do a hobby when I could just sit and play with them?” That’s my decompress time.
Your fear of flying comes up a lot in the book. Is that hard to manage, when you fly so much?
You know why I fly so much? Because I have a bigger fear of not fulfilling my dreams. I want to create things and that doesn’t happen sitting at home. I also pray I’ll get over it one day for my kids’ sake. I don’t want to pass it on to them.
You also talk about how relationships have ebbs and flows and how last fall, you and Dean were experiencing an ebb. What did you learn about your relationship during that time?
I learned that we had stopped communicating. I learned that it was okay to be different people and have different points of view— that doesn’t make us wrong for each other. I’m glad all that happened because it’s made our relationship stronger. We have been growing and getting to know each other all over again.
To borrow from Oprah, what do you know for sure about your and Dean’s relationship?
I know for sure that he’s my soul mate. That’s something I never let go of, even when I was resentful and angry about stuff, I would look at him and still know I was in love with him. When you’re mad and angry and you look over and say, “Eh, I don’t care,” that’s when you’re in trouble.
What do you love most about Dean?
I love that he’s so metro. He gets pedicures with me. I love that he loves fashion. We go shopping together. And I love that I feel safe with him. He protects me.
With so much media attention on your relationship, do you ever think about taking time off from being in the spotlight?
If we took a break from the reality show, we’d still be in the tabloids, but it’s going to be false information. We like doing the show—it keeps our family together.
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