February 15, 2011 at 2:20 pm , by Sonia Harmon
“Where do I stand?” is the battle the heart begins to fight when you’re a contestant on The Bachelor. Some relationships begin to progress and some stay at a standstill, not ever having the opportunity to grow. On The Bachelor the “love thing” is a one-way street: the Bachelor can’t tell any of the women what he feels for them. When a girl says “I love you” he can’t say anything back. He’s also not supposed to tell a woman she won’t be going home. So because his relationshipa to the women on the show are a one-way street, many of them are confused, some are more confident than they should be and others are not as confident as they could be.
I remember having those feelings when I was one of a handful of women left. All of us were trying to figure out if we were the right girl for the guy we were all dating. My confidence was particularly rocked the week right before hometown dates. I had just had an incredible “one on one” date and felt confident that our relationship was growing, yet I saw other women coming back from their dates glowing and feeling as confident as I did. I felt like my mind was playing tricks on me. But then I decided to ask myself, “Why does this matter? If he wants to continue to see where our relationship goes and meet my family, it will happen. This isn’t a competition and I don’t want to force anything.”
It’s so easy for this situation to become a “competition,” but I think that naturally, the women are trying to protect themselves from rejection. They are constantly trying to figure out where they stand so they can let their hearts continue to fall in love or so they can prepare themselves for heartache. Two women have already told Brad that they’ve fallen in love with him. Will the others find the confidence to let their hearts go as they take their Bachelor home to their families? I can’t wait to see!
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