They Really Do Grow Up Too Soon

December 14, 2011 at 12:30 pm , by

When my son was a newborn, I had moments—usually when I was feeling particularly happy and in love with my boy—when sadness would rush through my body, instant and palpable, like a jolt of adrenaline, and my eyes would fill with tears. It wasn’t the baby blues. It was the realization that life is short and fast and finite, and that these moments that were giving me such joy were fleeting, never to be recaptured. I’m guessing that my age—I was 43 when Scott was born—had a lot to do with it. I’ll bet 25-year-old moms are a lot less likely to draw a straight line between Goodnight Moon and mortality.

I’m able to stay more solidly in the present since those first days—no more wallowing in the poignancy of it all—but I have to say, it really does go by way too fast, just like the cliché says. In our September issue, we ran an essay on this fleeting nature of childhood called “The Long Goodbye.” It really struck a chord with readers, staying on our “Most Popular” list for many weeks. I’m not surprised: What parent can’t relate? And it’s a beautiful piece. If you missed it—or if you’re one of the many readers who loved it—here’s a video of writer Melissa T. Shultz reading it, with lots of adorable photos of her son. Get your tissues, sit back and enjoy. If you’re in the throes of holiday shopping and stress, this ought to help you get back to the spirit of the season.


4 Responses to “They Really Do Grow Up Too Soon”

  1. I absolutely loved this piece. The writer’s words were wonderful but what really made this article stand out was the combination of the video and her words. What a great idea. It felt like the mother was right in my living room talking to me.

    Please make sure Melissa Schultz continues to write for your magazine. She is fantastic:-)

  2. Gorgeous. Had me crying halfway through and my son is only 8. But yep, she captured it perfectly–as everyone is telling you to soak it in, you can’t hear, but by the time you can hear it, they’re already so big! Thank you, Melissa.

  3. Getting ready for my Jersey holiday weekend.

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