January 24, 2012 at 4:23 pm , by Ladies' Lounge
Let’s start by talking about how beautiful Park City, Utah is. The countryside is simply breathtaking. Obviously Ben loves the outdoors and is very adventurous so I think it was a great place for him to spend time with all of the women. But I have one question at this point—is it normal for people to still not have gone on individual dates this far in the season? I don’t remember it being week four and guys still not getting dates on my season. Help me out here…my memory is not serving me well today!
The first date went to Rachel, and Kacie B. really took it hard. Poor thing—she is just the cutest and has the sweetest little accent, so it broke my heart to see her cry at the beginning of Ben’s date with Rachel. It was also touching when she said that she hates seeing him go on other dates, but she loves that she gets to see him, if only for a few moments before the date. So sweet.
But the show must go on and The Bachelor wouldn’t be complete without a few helicopter rides! Rachel started off the date by saying that her last relationship ended because of communication issues, and boy was that comment foreshadowing. I think Ben gave her a rose to be nice. I just don’t see how he could think that they could have something long term when they had such a hard time communicating. There were definitely instances on my season where I would give a guy a rose because I liked him as a person and didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Not giving someone a rose on a one-on-one date is a lot harsher then not giving someone a rose at a rose ceremony. I’m also not completely convinced that Rachel is into Ben. I think she wants to stay because you never know what could happen, but as of right now, I don’t think she is feeling him at all.
This week’s group date was really cool because it was so normal. Ben riding the horse with the girls reminded me of riding the horses with the guys in Iceland. Remember how Craig R. got the smallest horse? It was basically the runt of the group and Craig is 6’4” so it was pretty funny. Anyway, I also absolutely loved the fishing part of the date. It seemed like a lot of fun and it’s something that Ben might actually do with his fiancé in the future.
I know most of us got angry with Courtney during this episode, myself included, but I am going to try to be as open-minded as I can and try to use my insight into the show to try to understand why she did certain things. As frustrating as it was for me to see Courtney be mean to the other girls, I think she did the right thing on the group date by pulling Ben away to get some one-on-one time. I feel like I can’t be mad at her for that. Still, I wasn’t happy with how nasty she was to the other girls. More on Courtney later.
I was really surprised to see Ben send Samantha home on the group date. I get that he didn’t like her, but it really seemed to bother him when she expressed that she was upset because she only got group dates. I totally understand that some of the other girls didn’t even get dates, but it’s completely normal to be upset at this point for not having a one-on-one date; you basically put your entire life on hold for this guy and then you don’t get any alone time with him. It’s not easy. But I guess I was shocked to see how upset Ben was over her comments. She was just expressing her feelings and that’s exactly what this show should be about. Maybe something happened with her on a past group date that we didn’t get to see, because Ben seems like a pretty level-headed guy and something just didn’t add up with his reaction to her comment. I would have expected him to send her home, but he should have been kind about it and instead, he seemed angry. I wish we knew why!
His alone time with Kacie B. was precious and I’m so glad that he’s reassuring her. It’s super important to reassure the few people you really like throughout the process because it’s so easy to feel confident about your relationship one day and feel totally lost the next. Like Ben said, Kacie B. is “wonderful.” I’m really rooting for these two to end up together!
Now back to Courtney—she really knows how to play this game, and it’s starting to feel like that’s all this is to her, a game. I know she was quoting Charlie Sheen, but it really rubbed me the wrong way when she kept saying “winning.” But here’s the thing: a lot of people thought Michelle Money was a mean girl on her season, but I can tell you from personal experience that she’s a sweetheart and people just didn’t get her humor and sarcasm on the show. This could also be the case with Courtney. Don’t get me wrong, she says a lot of mean things and is acting a little immature in many instances, but I don’t think she realizes what she’s doing. Obviously she’s not being very nice, but we also don’t know how much of this is because of editing. Sometimes your humor doesn’t come off the way you want it to.
Let’s move on to Ben’s date with Jennifer. I was cracking up when Jennifer called their date “sketchy.” She’s funny! It was a very cool date, although I don’t know if I would want to wear a harness while wearing a bathing suit and having a camera on me. She’s a brave girl.
I really loved how Jennifer opened up about her past relationship. I feel like being with someone for several years and that person ultimately not being able to commit to you is something many of us can relate to. Then it started raining and it was such a romantic moment for the two of them. I almost wish they didn’t go inside and just kissed all night in the rain. Sigh. I love romance. However, I hate to say it but I feel like this was another one of those dates where he gave her a rose because it would have been really harsh to send someone home on a one-on-one date. It’s always a red flag to me when Ben (or any bachelor) says “I didn’t know if I was going to like you at first.” Why do I feel that way? Because 95 percent of the time you know within the first 10 minutes of meeting someone whether or not you would date them. Do you guys agree? Even though I love Jennifer, I’m not sure she’ll be around for much longer. I think they would be better as friends, but I wouldn’t mind at all if Ben proves me wrong!
The cocktail party was where the real drama began. I understand why Emily tried to tell Ben about Courtney, because I did the same thing on my season. Plus, I always told the guys on my Bachelorette season to tell me if they had any concerns about the other guys because I know they witnessed things I would never see. However, every bachelor and bachelorette is different and Ben was so right when he said “You are going to go crazy if you try to read into this.” There’s so much that goes into the decision to keep certain people and send others home, and if you try to figure that out as a contestant you will just drive yourself nuts.
I thought it was really funny when Courtney said “I’m a nice person, don’t @#$% with me!” Uh, what? That is an oxymoron if I’ve ever heard one. I will say that Courtney totally had the right to call Emily out and Emily shouldn’t have pretended that she didn’t know what Courtney was talking about. She should have just called Courtney out and owned it. But I still love Emily and I’m really glad she got a rose. Everyone has a right to defend himself or herself and Courtney definitely did that in this circumstance. However, I don’t really want to judge her or anyone else on this show—I’ll wait until I meet her in person to decide what I think about her.
Next week’s episode looks intense! I cannot believe Courtney and Ben go skinny-dipping. Are their mothers watching? (Along with cameramen and audio people, producers and a control room full of people who saw this live when their “parts” weren’t blurred out…oh my.) I’ll get more into that in next week’s blog. As always, don’t forget to follow me on my Facebook and Twitter pages! Until next time…
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