January 31, 2012 at 4:18 pm , by Ladies' Lounge
Hi friends! Welcome back In last night’s episode, all of the girls got to go on a date with Ben, so I was happy for them—it would really stink to be in Puerto Rico and not be able to go out and explore. Speaking of tropical places, I just got back from the beautiful Casa Dorada resort in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico and I’m exhausted after an incredible trip with my girlfriends. So I apologize if my blog isn’t on point this time around, but I promise to make up for it next week!
I was really glad that Nikki got a date this week. I liked her the first night but we haven’t really gotten to know her since. Nikki seems really genuine and I loved seeing how relaxed she was with Ben. And even though I think it’s good that Nikki opened up about her marriage, I don’t think it’s a good thing to tell a guy that you had trust issues in your past relationship without going into more detail and explaining why you felt that way. I feel like that puts a warning sign in his head that says, “I’m going to lose my freedom if I get into a relationship with this girl!” I could be totally wrong, but that’s my observation based on my experience with guys. However, I will say that I thought their kiss was super passionate—heck, even I started blushing a little. I think Ben really likes Nikki, or at least really likes kissing her.
The group date this week seemed like a lot of fun. Baseball is such a great idea for a date and I’m all for a little healthy sports competition! I found it very interesting that Ben got to choose a woman to take on the night portion of the date, and it means a lot that he picked Lindzi. It’s not a rose, but in my opinion it’s much better. Usually roses are given to some people because you don’t want to be harsh and send someone home on a one-on-one date. And sometimes you give a rose on a group date to someone who you haven’t spent that much time with, so you want them to feel better by getting the rose. Believe me, there are hundreds of reasons why roses are given out. If who the roses were given to didn’t get switched up every once in a while, I would have given my group date roses to one of three or four guys every single time. However, giving Lindzi more “time” is much more special, and it shows that he wants to be around her and get to know her better. I’m not sure if this makes sense to you guys, but it makes perfect sense in my head, maybe because I lived through it.
On the group date Kacie B. got the rose. I loved when Ben gave her the rose and stated a bunch of reasons why he wanted to give it to her, because I think when he isn’t all that into a girl he’ll usually just say something like “I want to get to know you more.” Yay, Kacie B! I love her to pieces.
I think Elyse is a sweetheart, but I feel bad because I didn’t even know her name until this episode. That fact alone was enough for me to know that she wasn’t going to make it very far in this because the viewers didn’t even know her yet! It was very obvious to me throughout the date that Ben wasn’t feeling it. He wasn’t really talking to her and he was just repeating things she said. I also don’t think Elyse really liked Ben that much; I don’t think she was crying for him per se, I think it was more because she wanted to stay on the show and was maybe hoping for that fairy tale ending. In the end, Ben did the right thing. If you don’t feel it, you can’t force it.
Now here comes the really interesting part—Ben and Courtney skinny dipping. People often ask me if the girls can go to see Ben whenever they want and the answer is no, they can’t. So in this situation Courtney must have asked a producer if she could see him so they could skinny dip and they allowed it. Ben said she “broke the rules” but trust me, she got permission. Don’t you think the camera crew would have said something if she was breaking the rules? And Courtney knew exactly what she was doing by putting the idea into Ben’s head early on. (Plus, I think she saw the chemistry between Kacie B. and Ben and wanted to put a stop to it immediately.) In terms of Ben’s involvement, he’s a single man—of course he’s going to want to go skinny dipping with a model! Does that mean all men out there would do this? Of course not. I’m just saying that most men would have a hard time saying no to this especially since Ben is super into Courtney. I don’t think Ben would have done it with just any girl, and Courtney is a frontrunner so he decided to take advantage of the opportunity to get closer (uh, real close) to her. Would I have done it? Absolutely not. But that’s just me. Moving on…
I loved seeing Blakely open up at the cocktail party; that totally changed my opinion of her. To be honest, I don’t think Ben will end up with her but I think it’s the greatest gift in the world to find yourself and love yourself. I’ve recently gone through a similar situation and I feel like once you are totally happy just being you and knowing that you deserve all the happiness in the world, everything else just falls into place.
After that happy thought, let’s discuss a not-so-happy situation: Ben and Emily. Ben should not have told Emily to “be careful.” That was such a poor choice of words. Emily was simply looking out for him, but she wasn’t doing it or expressing it to him the right way. I know exactly what she’s going through, but after she apologized she shouldn’t have brought it up again because it just wasn’t necessary. As for Ben, I think he’s just getting tired at this point in the show and he doesn’t want to be influenced by others. Guys and girls are different in this regard. Well, I should say that Ben and I are different in this regard. On my season, I wanted the guys to tell me what I wasn’t seeing behind the scenes, but they never really did. It’s like they didn’t want to break the “man code.” However, women tend to feel the need to look out for the men they care about and be vocal about the women they think don’t have good intentions. Women don’t generally think of that as tattling, in my opinion at least. I would be interested to hear what you guys think.
And then there was the elimination. I know many of you are big Jennifer fans, including myself, but I was not surprised at all when she got sent home. Ben is not good at hiding who he is and isn’t interested in, and when he was talking to Jennifer at the cocktail party it seemed like he had nothing to say and the only way he could express interest in her was by kissing her.
After all of this craziness, I have to stick up for my boy Ben. In Ben’s defense this is a really tough point in the show. He’s been on many dates with the girls and I would bet that he’s definitely narrowed it down to his top three or four. So each goodbye is actually getting easier for him because he gets to narrow it down to the girls he really likes. At this point I think that Ben’s top three girls are Courtney, Lindzi and Kacie B. I want to believe that Kacie B. is the girl for Ben, but I feel like it looks too obvious. If it really is Kacie B. in the end, then I feel like the current episodes would be edited to trick us into thinking that it’s not her. But then again, things can always change and maybe they’re just showing us a true love story between them. They would make a perfect couple. Sigh. Okay loves, I need a nap after all of the fun I had in Cabo. Until next time…
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