February 7, 2012 at 4:01 pm , by Ladies' Lounge
It speaks volumes that Kacie B. got a second one-on-one date. At this point in the episode, we can pretty much be certain that Ben isn’t into the girls who haven’t gotten a one-on-one date up until now. So Jamie, Casey S. and Blakely were all no longer options for me right from the start of this episode. I found it really funny that on Ben’s date with Kacie he said, “Relationships are all about overcoming fears,” while chopping a coconut. Is Ben afraid of coconuts? No wonder Blakely hasn’t gotten a one-on-one! Okay, okay…I couldn’t resist.
Ben and Kacie are so adorable together, right? I love that she was able to open up to him about such a difficult time in her life and I’m really glad that she got the help she needed. Eating disorders are no joke. The pressure women (and men) are under to look a certain way is huge and I hope all of the girls watching out there know that being skinny is not what makes you beautiful. Being healthy is what makes you beautiful, being kind is what makes you beautiful and being YOU is what makes you beautiful.
The kiss between Ben and Kacie at the end of their date was sweet. Her leg flip up (Sex in the City style) was so cute and tells us that she really enjoyed the kiss. Don’t worry Kacie, if Ben doesn’t pick you just call me because I adore you!
There was a lot of awkwardness on the group date as usual. I think it’s blatantly obvious that Courtney is using her sexuality to get what she wants; it’s a bit over the top at this point. I think it would have been fine for her not to wear a bathing suit when dancing with the tribe (do as the locals do) if she and Ben were in a committed, monogamous relationship, but they absolutely are not. There were a bunch of other girls on the date and she should’ve respected that. I’m having a hard time understanding her. She seems to think that the other girls aren’t making “moves” on the date, but the reason they aren’t making moves is because usually all of the girls become friends during the season. So on the group dates, they’re all trying to respect each other and each person’s relationship with Ben. That’s how I felt on my season anyway, and I’m glad I respected the other girls on group dates because some of them became my best friends. I feel bad for Courtney because she isn’t going to come out of this experience with any lifelong friends. Or maybe she will and there’s something we aren’t seeing. I hope she did make friends, for her sake.
Courtney getting into the water during Ben’s time with Jamie was so wrong. That being said, Jamie seemed to think it was Courtney’s fault that she went last night. But I will say with 100 percent confidence that Courtney isn’t the reason Jamie went home—it’s just because Ben isn’t into Jamie. Trust me, I think there are still a handful of girls left that Ben really isn’t feeling, but he can’t send everyone home at the beginning. This is a television show after all!
Now I want to take a minute to talk about Emily. I love when she joked about having another man in her life. I was seriously nervous for a second there, but then I was so happy that she made Ben laugh. I think she gained a few points in his eyes this week. And it takes a lot for someone to apologize the way she did and the way Courtney responded was very immature. I’ve always said that I don’t want to judge Courtney, but I just don’t understand why she continues to act the way she does on the show. I’ll be very interested to hear what she has to say after all of this is over.
Anyone else notice that Ben smiles a lot when he is with Lindzi? The smile on his face when he gave her the rose on the group date said it all. He is as smitten as a kitten with that girl!
Now on to the dreaded two-on-one date—this date was the absolute worst! I remember everything feeling super awkward when I was on my two-on-one date with Kasey and Justin in Iceland. At least no one got a tattoo on Ben’s two-on-one because let’s face it, that just makes everything more awkward! And I hate to say it, but this date is further confirmation for me that Ben wasn’t into Rachel (and obviously not Blakely since she goes home). I think it’s because on this type of date, you usually bring two people you aren’t really into that much. Why, you ask? If you take two people you aren’t sure about, you don’t have to worry about sending one home. Maybe Ben thought differently about this date than I did, but I’m confident that Ben isn’t really into either girl.
Blakely’s reaction when she was sent home was probably not how she should’ve handled it. Ben didn’t do anything wrong by letting her go and it seemed like she felt she had been wronged. I’m glad that she realized that and apologized before saying goodbye to Ben. Here’s the thing—many of you might have found it strange that Blakely was crying so hard over a guy she barely knew, but I’m fairly certain she wasn’t crying over Ben. She was crying because she was sent home and because he chose the other girls over her, and it’s completely normal to get upset over that. It’s hard being rejected or for a guy to pick other women instead of you. Overall, it’s just a really hard, weird, not normal experience and I felt for her when she was crying.
Then there was the Casey S. scandal. When Chris Harrison shows up any time other than to welcome you to a new city or at a rose ceremony, you know something is about to go down! Leading up to this moment I thought something terrible had happened to someone in Casey’s family, and I would’ve felt so bad for her if that was the case. What actually happened was a lot less serious than I thought. In fact, I still don’t think I completely understand what information Chris Harrison received that made him feel like he should confront Casey about her ex. I just don’t think having feelings for an ex is enough to call someone and send them home. If this girl really is in love with someone else, Ben probably would have sensed that and sent her home anyway. And I don’t think Casey was deceiving him—she went on the show hoping it would help her get over her ex. At least once she realized that wasn’t happening (and with a little push from Chris Harrison) she owned up to how she was feeling and told Ben. My heart broke for her when she left the show. I really hope she isn’t still with that guy back home and has found happiness.
Jamie’s how-to-kiss demonstration at the cocktail party was too uncomfortable to watch. You know a guy isn’t into you when he described your kiss as “a-okay.” Poor Jamie. I hope she realizes that she doesn’t have to throw herself at a man to be loved. I’m sure she watched tonight’s episode at home and cringed at her actions. I think it’s safe to say that her behavior at the cocktail party sealed her fate at the end of the night.
Well, that’s all I’ve got for today. I can’t wait to see what happens next week when Ben confronts Courtney! Don’t forget to follow me on my Facebook and Twitter pages for my live commentary during the show. Until next time…
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