February 14, 2012 at 3:43 pm , by Ladies' Lounge
I think I’ve decided that I’m going to stop calling this show The Bachelor and start calling it Courtney’s Shenanigans. Regardless of what you think about her you have to admit, the show wouldn’t be nearly as entertaining without her on it. I actually found myself wanting her to get a rose last night for two reasons: One, who would we love to hate each week if she left? And two, I’m dying to meet her parents. I wonder if her mom will say something like, “Have you ever talked to a model’s mom before?” LOL…I’ll stop. It’s kind of sad honestly, because all of the drama with Courtney makes me want to watch the show for the drama, when it should really be about finding love. Speaking of love, Happy Valentine’s Day. If you’re reading this, I am officially asking you to be my valentine. Say yes! Who said a girl can only have one? And Ben still has more than enough valentines on the show right now, so let’s talk about this week’s dates.
Lindzi got the first one-on-one date of the week, and it brought some of the other girls to tears! Emily must really like Ben because she compared it to someone stealing your cheesecake—and that’s got to be love. But I must say that I just loved their date. I think it would be so much fun to jump out of a helicopter and into the ocean. I wouldn’t have been scared of the actual jump—I’d be more terrified of my swimsuit flying off and having an “accidental” skinny-dipping date with Ben. I think one skinny-dipping moment is enough for this season.
Ben and Lindzi make a very interesting couple. He always seems really interested in her when they’re together, but I don’t feel like we see a lot of their connection. I wonder if Lindzi will surprise us in the end and win Ben’s heart. He’s obviously into her, but we don’t see or hear him talking about her as much as he does about Courtney. I know this show well enough to know that the producers and editors try to make us believe the bachelor will choose one person so that we’re totally surprised in the end when he picks someone else. For example, I was so sure that Brad was going to pick Chantel on the last season of The Bachelor because we saw so many clips of them together and of Brad talking about her. There wasn’t much footage of him taking about Emily. For this reason (among others), I think Ben might end up with Lindzi. Only time will tell.
Moving on to someone who isn’t going to end up with Ben: Emily. Courtney broke down a little bit when Emily got the one-on-one date and I actually found it was refreshing to see that side of her. I know many of you feel she was acting and I wouldn’t be surprised if she “acts” a lot on the show, but I really don’t think she was faking it in that moment. Those were real emotions, and I know because I felt those emotions at the same point on the show. Even though I like to joke about Courtney and even call her out when she’s being mean, it’s better to sort of kill her with kindness, you know? One of my favorite quotes is “Be kind to unkind people, they need it the most.” I think that definitely applies here. So yes, I’ll call Courtney out and make jokes here and there, but at the end of the day she’s still a person with feelings. People who’ve been hurt hurt other people. My mom always told me to remember that.
Anyhow, I don’t have much to say about Ben and Emily’s date. I thought it was really cool and it seemed like they were having a good time, but Ben and Emily are more like friends than lovers. I think that’s why Emily kept feeling the need to talk about Courtney and try to warn him. But it was kind of a lost cause—she kept telling Ben that she didn’t want to miss out on time with him by talking about Courtney, but she’d just end up talking even more about Courtney again!
Once again Courtney showed us how charming and endearing she is (I’m being sarcastic) when she left for her date and said, “Bye! Can’t stand you all.” Oh, Courtney—why, why, why? I’m trying to see the good in this girl but with comments like that, it’s so difficult. Especially when in this same episode we see her confiding in Lindzi as if she’s her friend. I have a feeling a lot of harsh words are going to be exchanged at the Women Tell All special. It’s not going to be pretty for Courtney.
Ben is super into Courtney and it’s pretty obvious that at this point he only wants to be on dates with her (and maybe one other girl…Lindzi?). When they started their one-on-one date, Ben told Courtney “I’m sorry it took so long to get you on another one of these.” This is exactly the kind of thing I used to say to the guys I really liked on my season. It was even more clear to me that Courtney is at least in the top two when Ben said, “I like you and I’m amazed that you’ve been able to hang on. It’s hard for me not to be able to console you and tell you everything is going to be okay.” That’s almost verbatim what I used to say to Frank when he would get concerned about the “process.” Roberto was pretty good about hanging in there, but Frank always had concerns about my feelings for him. And I’d say things like that to assure him that he was in it for the long haul because I knew from the beginning that he’d be around for a while, and I think Ben has known that about Courtney since the very beginning too.
Seeing how much Ben likes Courtney make me sad for him because she really was manipulating him throughout the date. Look, it was completely okay for her to question Ben and share her concerns about him meeting her family. Getting your family involved is a huge deal. However, Courtney was basically telling Ben, “If you want it, you better send Emily home because I don’t like her.” Do I think Ben sent Emily home because of Courtney? Absolutely not. Emily went home because Ben wasn’t feeling her as much as the other girls, plain and simple, but that doesn’t justify what Courtney said. But Emily is kind, smart, beautiful and has a solid head on her shoulders—I have no doubt she’ll find an incredible man to share all of that with.
All I really have to say about the group date is that I’m glad the girls got together and agreed to tell Ben about Courtney. In my opinion, Kacie B., Nicki and Rachel (my girlfriends call her “twiggy”) did the right thing by having Ben’s back last night. Thankfully Ben took that information and confronted Courtney about it, but I’m not sure it did any good. Ben likes Courtney and until he actually sees her acting nasty toward someone, he’s going to believe whatever she says.
I cannot believe we’re already down to 4 girls and hometown visits are next week—they’re my favorite dates. I remember how excited I was to introduce the guys to my family. After being swept away in a fantasy land for so many weeks, seeing your family brings everything back to reality. Please come back to reality Courtney!
P.S. After tonight, I don’t think Courtney will be the last one standing. I’ll explain more next week.
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