February 21, 2012 at 12:01 pm , by Ladies' Lounge
The hometown dates are my favorite. It’s the first time the girls actually get to plan a date (which is fun for them) and we get to see the families that shaped them. I wish the show would let the girls meet Ben’s family in his hometown as well. They were lucky this season because they went to Sonoma early on, but I think it would be great if the show brought the final few girls to the bachelor’s parents’ house. That way they’re getting to know the real Ben a little more too.
I found myself giggling like a little girl when I realized Lindzi’s dad’s name is Harry Cox, but I’m going to try to focus on the date! I honestly felt like the kisses at the beginning of Ben’s date with Lindzi were awkward, but Ben really seemed to get along with her family. I absolutely loved that they had their first date at city hall where her parents got married. Does this mean they’re meant to be? Maybe!
Lindzi told her mom that she wasn’t expecting to go on the show and fall in love with someone. I can promise you that 95 percent of the people who go on this show really don’t believe they can fall in love while on the show, so it’s surprising when they do. However, sometimes that love is a little exaggerated in your mind because you’re in this fantasy world where all you do is talk about and think about the bachelor. Looking back, I can confidently say that I was never in love with Jake. I thought he was a nice person, but I was so in love with the idea of falling in love on the show that I made myself believe that I loved him. I remember going home after the show and feeling like I never even really knew Jake because he never felt like a part of my life. It was almost like it was all a dream; it’s hard to explain. That being said, I absolutely did find love on The Bachelorette so I know it’s possible. Basically what I’m trying to say is I’m not sure if Lindzi is really in love with Ben or in love with the idea of Ben. Only time will tell. But I do think that Ben is falling in love with Lindzi.
Ben mentioned that he didn’t know his feelings for a woman could grow so much in one day. I can totally relate to that. Hometown dates were the first time throughout the whole process where I felt like I was truly getting to know the guys for who they are.
So at this point we all know that Kacie B. went home, and I was pretty shocked. I saw so much chemistry between them, but this just goes to show that what we see on TV really doesn’t tell the whole story. Even though we want Ben and Kacie to end up together, it’s not necessarily what’s best for them. I think there’s a really good chance that Kacie’s parents affected Ben’s decision to keep her longer. If they were more accepting, I bet that Kacie might have continued on to the next episode, at least. But I don’t feel that she and Ben would have ended up together, and I know Ben wouldn’t send her home just because of her parents. Obviously, something was missing for him.
I really respected that Kacie’s dad told Ben he wishes happiness for him, and that he wouldn’t want to see him get hurt either. That was really nice of him to say, and I totally get why he’s so protective of Kacie. She’s his little girl. It’s refreshing to see parents that don’t fall in love with the fantasy of the show and actually get real about what’s going on with their daughter. Good for them! But I also think they could’ve been both protective and supportive and I didn’t feel a whole lot of support coming from them.
I really thought Ben and Kacie had something, but if I had to guess why Ben sent Kacie home, I’d say it might have been the marching band and baton twirling that sealed her fate. Love you Kacie, but I think it’s time to retire the baton
It didn’t seem like there was much chemistry between Nicki and Ben on their date either. I could tell from the first two minutes of her hometown date that she’s not going to be the girl for Ben in the end. He said “Our relationship has been slow to start” about Nicki, and that’s exactly what I used to say about the guys I wasn’t sure about yet. You say the relationship is “moving slowly” because it’s a nicer way of saying “this relationship isn’t moving forward.” Obviously Ben and I are not the same person so it could mean something different for him, but I’m confident that Ben will end up sending Nicki home next week and say that it’s because his relationships with the other girls are stronger.
I really loved Nicki’s parents. I thought her mom was so cute and I had a huge smile on my face watching the two of them have girl talk on the bed. And Nicki’s dad is the sweetest! It was so heartwarming to see her dad get emotional about his love for his daughter—I just wanted to give him a big hug. On the other hand, it was hard for me to watch Nicki’s dad be so concerned because I don’t think Ben and Nicki will end up together. After she told him she loved him he seemed pained by hearing it. Maybe I’m wrong and Ben ends up with Nicki, but I just don’t see it right now.
I was disappointed that we didn’t see much of Courtney and Ben’s time with her parents, but I did notice that Courtney’s parents were wearing matching outfits and I thought that was pretty cute. We also heard Courtney’s dad say that marriage has 50 percent chance of “winning.” What is it with this family and the word winning? But on a positive note, it was nice to see Courtney tell her family how much she cares for Ben. I’m still not sure that her feelings are real, but I think she thinks they’re real.
After watching Courtney and Ben tonight I really do feel like they’re the best match for each other. Ben said it best—they’re both a little “weird” (I mean that in a good way) and they seem really comfortable together. And did you hear his “vows”? I definitely think he’s in love with her because he’s never said anything like that to the other girls. I can’t say for sure whether they end up together in the end, but I’d be willing to bet money on it at this point.
I also have to wonder after watching this—did Ben ask every father if he could marry their daughter? I feel like that makes it so much less special. I hope he didn’t.
So in the end I think Lindzi isn’t falling in love with Ben, but Ben’s falling for Lindzi and Courtney. And Nicki is falling for Ben, but Lindzi is in love with her horses, and Courtney is in love with herself. Yikes, that’s quite the love triangle…or rectangle. I’m not really sure what to call it, but it’s confusing!
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