February 28, 2012 at 2:25 pm , by Ladies' Lounge
Is it just me or was this episode a little hard to get through? At this point I usually feel really connected to at least one of the love stories on the show and I don’t feel that way this season. Maybe it’s because I’m worried that Ben is just going to get his heart broken in the end and that makes me sad. Or it could be the fact that I was watching with a group of eight girls and we had a blast laughing and having girl talk! Either way, I had a little trouble focusing, but I was still blown away by the beautiful scenery. A trip Switzerland has to be my next vacation! The views there are absolutely breathtaking.
Let’s talk about the dates. Nicki opened up a lot on her date, which is great, but we didn’t see Ben open up to her. It was like he didn’t feel close enough to her to let her in and maybe that’s why he let her go. He even said, “I enjoy you” to her, and after that comment I was sure she was going home. When you’re crazy about someone you probably wouldn’t use the words “I enjoy you” to describe your time with them.
I know some people might think Nicki was a little over the top when she started talking about kids, but it is something you should talk about before getting engaged. You wouldn’t want to marry someone only to find out later that they don’t want any kids and you want five. Obviously, that would be a big problem, so I’m proud of Nicki for putting it all out there. But in the end, she just wasn’t the one for Ben.
Lindzi and Ben were super cute together this week. Throughout this season I’ve had a hard time seeing a strong connection between them, but that changed last tonight. I always knew Ben really liked Lindzi, but I also felt like there was weird awkwardness between them. However, last night they were totally connected. Lindzi seemed a little concerned about the overnight date, which is totally normal. Many of you probably assume that the overnight suite is for…well, you know, but that isn’t always the case. It’s different for everyone, and it’s important because it’s the first time you get to talk to each other off camera! And trust me, there are so many things you want to say that you don’t want to be aired on national television. I hope Ben and the ladies got the clarity they needed during that time together because those conversations are some of the most important conversations you’ll have on the show and in some cases, in your life.
As I was saying earlier, my girlfriends and I had a hard time focusing when we were watching the show last night—that is, until Courtney came on. I know she can be a little too much to handle but let’s face it, we all love to see what’s going to come out of her mouth next. I was really glad (and surprised) that she admitted to saying hurtful things to the other girls. She didn’t have to tell Ben so I think it was great that she did. And you know what? I’m glad Courtney didn’t always make this experience easy for Ben. A woman playing hard to get is much closer to reality than 25 women pining over one guy. Am I right? I was also surprised when Ben responded to her by saying what she did was “pretty messed up.” He seemed so upset that I almost thought that he wouldn’t give her a rose this week. The producers normally don’t show the negative side of conversations at this point in the show, but it was a conversation that needed to be had and I think it’s great that they got it out of the way.
I was so sad when Kacie B. came back to get answers from Ben about why he let her go. Kacie love, you are a kind, lovely and beautiful woman. You don’t need to know why a man doesn’t want to be with you; just accept that he doesn’t, hold your head high and go out there and find a man who will adore you for all of the wonderful qualities you possess! Kacie also tried to warn Ben about Courtney because she couldn’t bear to see him get his heart broken by her, and I have to say I am right there with Kacie on this one. I feel like Ben will get his heart broken in the end if he picks Courtney. I just don’t think she really cares for him and is getting caught up in the competition aspect of the show. I really felt for Kacie when she was telling him all of this. She was genuinely concerned for him. Bless her heart for trying to help him at the last minute.
Ben mentioned that he questioned his decisions up until now. Do you think that he questioned his decision to keep Courtney? I don’t think so. I think he’s known for a while that Courtney is the one he wants to be with, but it’s weighing heavy on him that so many of the girls are questioning her and his decision to keep her every week. All I have to say is Ben, you have to do what you think is best for you. If you think Courtney is the one, choose her, love her and put everything you have into the relationship. Time will tell if she’s the right one for you.
Okay…I’m getting a little ahead of myself! There are still two girls left and Ben might surprise us all and choose Lindzi. I still think she has a chance! Until next time…
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