Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 5

June 12, 2012 at 2:11 pm , by

I found it pretty ironic that the episode where Emily felt the most disrespected is the episode where I gained the most respect for her. Sometimes it takes dealing with a real jerk to make you see how great you really are. I felt like we all could relate to Emily’s experience in last night’s episode, and I was so proud of her for standing up for herself and firing back to tell Kalon how she felt. I’m not sure if it was her raspy little voice or just a shift in the whole process, but I think Emily really came out of her shell. She was a little funnier, a little edgier and not afraid to speak her mind. It was so refreshing!

Remember how I said this season would be much different because of the pressure to find someone who’s good for her daughter too? This episode made me realize that having little Ricki throughout this process is actually a bit of an advantage for Emily—it really does separate the boys from the men. It’s pretty easy to see that the boys are caving under the pressure, but I do have to give these guys major props. I’m definitely a “guy’s girl” and I’ve dated a few guys since my big split, and I know that we girls have no problem talking about babies, marriages, and happily-ever-afters, while most guys will freak out. So we really got to see who might be ready for all of that and I think there are some real gems in this group.

Speaking of pressure, how adorable were Doug and Arie dressed up as girlies tonight? I was laughing so hard. There’s a level of empathy, of course, but when you can turn a super awkward scenario like that into something goofy and funny—to me, that is so attractive. Good job boys.

I really loved Doug tonight.  I have noticed him a few times this season but tonight he showed a really sexy and sensitive side, which is a rare combination. I’m excited to see how his relationship with Emily evolves as the season progresses.

There are a few other front-runners that stick out to me. I thought Sean’s date was cute, but I’m still not totally sold. I still really heart Arie. I’m not sure if he’s ready for the whole package, but I sense a truly genuine connection between the two of them and they’re really adorable together. His salt and pepper hair doesn’t hurt either! And then there’s Jef. I really hate to say this but I think Jef is one of those “nice guys finish last” guys. If we were smart—and I’m sure most of you ladies are—we’d all fall for a Jef. I’d bet serious dough that he would make the best dad, husband and friend. But sadly, I’m not sure if he’ll make the cut with Emily. We’ll just have to wait and see!

The next episode looks stressful. The preview definitely brought back some serious memories of my season. I remember at this stage how much I really cared for all my “guys” and I still do! I can tell that at this point Emily has done a great job of really putting herself out there and giving each guy a real shot. You can see a different connection with each of them and I think that is going to make all the difference in the world for her.

Well guys, as I write this I realize I’ve got a busy schedule ahead of me! I have some exciting news to share with you all soon and today is a full day of planning for my new adventure. I’ve also got a fun design project that I’ve been working on in Vancouver (check it out here!). Today I’ll receive the last shipment of furniture so I’ve got my hands full! I have to say that this crazy ride mostly started with this very show, and even though it wasn’t always happy and I went through some heartbreak, I’m very grateful for the positives it has brought me. So tell me—if you could ever do something as crazy as going on a show like The Bachelorette…would you?

Until next time,


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7 Responses to “Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 5”

  1. No, don’t think I’d do the show, but have watched every single show since it aired and by FAR, you were the best bachelorette, and the love between you and Ed was undeniable. Still hoping for a reunion with you two. (Never stop dreaming, right Jilly?)

    Love you and your spirit.


  2. Jillian — I think you are wrong on this one. She has it “bad” for Jef. The eyes say it all. Emily is feeling it for Jef. Jef and Emily:) Your bachelorette season was my favorite, but I still wish you would have chosen Kip, or Mike or Reid. So many good guys. Any chance of you reconnecting with any of them?

  3. Has anyone forgotten the poor ladies who ratted out Courtney to Ben and got vivisected for their efforts? These men learn from what they see on TV, this was 3rd down and 2 yards to go. Let K. hang himself; which he did. He has more than baggage he is rude, and now stewed and tattooed!
    Good thing it happened sooner than later though; Emily really dodged a bullet and for sure that sweet girl did not end up with a twit as a step dad! Small favors.

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  5. Jef is definitely the winner this season. Every possible post show sign points to him and she is clearly the most into him. I think alot of people are projecting their personal taste of men onto Emily and assume she thinks he’s too young lookin, boyish, too nice or whatever else people are saying about him. From the first episode she’s been the most intrigued by him and from what I read she’s not even into the Ken Doll type and likes a guy with a bit of edge.

  6. Frontrunners are Arie, Jef & Sean… but I like Arie the most! I think Emily & him have great chemistry, like u & kip in your season which I love bytheway… he was my bet for you since day 1, love the way u & kip kissed (it’s like u were hungry with each other everytime, lol) & was so bummed when u ditch him. My wishful thinking is someday would come full circle, u & kip 2gether agein :) ) keep blogging, love it!

  7. Kip is with Tenley and they are perfect for each other! I think Jillian and Mike should give it another go!