July 24, 2012 at 2:46 pm , by Ladies' Lounge
The finale has finally arrived! You guys know that I have been team Jef all the way, so I had my fingers crossed for them. I remember when I was down to the last two on my finale; I had truly fallen for all three final guys. It’s so hard when you realize time how quickly time has flown by and you have to make a decision for the final rose.
Meeting the parents is obviously a huge decision and of course, Emily had little Ricki to think of as well. It’s all about making sure that whatever guy she chooses was the perfect compliment to not only her life, but Ricki’s life too. I’m a new aunt, and I can only imagine how much stress Emily was under to make sure that she was picking the right guy and not just following along with what her parents think. I’m so fortunate to have a very open family that trusts my judgment and they always supported me through the process. At this point I just wanted them to essentially tell me what to do, but I knew they couldn’t.
Jef is such an amazing, genuine and kind guy. You could just see in his eyes how nervous he was talking to Emily’s mom and to me, that shows how much he loves Emily. I also thought it was great that he asked the family what they thought about Emily doing the show. He really opened himself up and I think Emily’s parents saw honesty in him. Do you guys think that Emily should have introduced Ricki to the guys before she made her decision in order to judge how good they would be with her? It’s such a big step and hard to predict, but I can also understand why she wouldn’t want to confuse Ricki.
I couldn’t believe that Arie would be going up against such tough competition after Jef met the family! It seemed like her family definitely had their mind made up about Jef. Is it just me or did it seem like Arie was talking more about himself than asking questions? Maybe it was just edited that way. And who knew that Arie dated a single mother? I think that gave him a little advantage, but I agree with what Emily’s brother said—his answers felt forced and unnatural. Arie and Emily didn’t have that look in their eyes where you can tell that they’re in love. To be honest, I thought their kiss was a little awkward. It seemed like she was pulling back a little bit, no?
I love where Jef’s mind was at on the final day. I’m so glad that he was thinking about how they will fit as a family rather than getting caught up in the “specialness” of the day. Then Emily introduced Jef to Ricki—I think that said who she was going to choose right there. And how cute was Jef with Ricki? They already seemed like a natural family! That made me really happy for Emily because I know how hard this process can be, but moments like that make you realize it’s worth it.
Do you think Emily was still thinking about Arie at this point? I feel like their relationship was based on two completely different aspects; love vs. attraction. I respected Emily’s decision to not put Arie through the ceremony. This is supposed to be all about honesty, something that is paramount in a relationship. I think about Ed and wonder if things would have been different if we’d had that honesty, but I know that everything happens for a reason. It was hard for Emily to end her relationship with Arie, but I was proud of how honest she was with herself and with everyone else.
I’m so happy to see Emily get her fairytale. Having kissed a lot of “toads” myself, I think we all deserve to get our happy ending. It just might take a little learning along the way, as well as getting to know yourself and figuring out what you really want.
Now that the show is over, the real test begins. Do you think they will be a successful couple? Being under such scrutiny after the show on top of having a brand new relationship where Ed and I were getting to know each other more in depth was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to deal with. You have to be really strong and ignore what other people are saying and concentrate on getting to know each other. I wish Emily and Jef the best of luck on their journey.
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