October 2, 2013 at 9:00 am , by YourTango.com
Three simple words, one perfect sentence, complete with a pronoun, a verb, and an object. It’s a sentence that is supposed to carry with it great intent, reveal the most intimate caring, and define relationship status. But do the words “I love you“ really convey all that they are supposed to?
The words “I love you” roll quite easily off our tongues when we speak them to our children. We, as women, are simply bred to automatically and immediately love our children, and for most of us, this comes naturally. It may be less often that we say “I love you” to our parents and siblings, but when we do it’s usually intentional. When it comes to romantic relationships, however, we need to be extra careful that, when we say those words, the people who hear them know that we truly mean it. And more importantly, we need to understand that we mean it. Has there ever been a time when someone you “loved” said “I love you” many times and yet betrayed you, or you felt it was simply lip service?
Here are 10 ways to put “I love you” into action, make our relationships more meaningful, and avoid overuse of these three powerful words:
1. Expand your vocabulary
Instead of always saying “I love you”, use words that you don’t usually say but also have meaning, like “I’m so lucky to have you,” or “I love that you…” or “I admire you for…”
2. Accept yourself and your needs
Accept that the other person is not you. One of the things that prevents a person from loving another fully is our relationship with ourselves. Separating yourself from the other is not only healthy, it is a key to a successful relationship.
3. Actions speak louder than words
Express your love in a variety of ways by bringing a small gift, a flower, a card, or a small token that you think the other person would like.
Read 7 more ways to say “I love you,” at YourTango.com: 10 Beautiful Ways to Say ‘I Love You’
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