October 23, 2013 at 9:36 am , by YourTango.com
If anyone or anything can come between you and your partner, by definition, your relationship is “shakable.” What does it mean to have a shakable relationship? It’s too fragile to withstand the next challenge that will come your way.
A fundamental piece of creating an unshakable love is coming together as a team with your partner. We at Love and Passion Coach have a different definition of the word “team.” Most people think of a team as “teamwork,” meaning “You do this, and I do that, and together we get everything done.”
Sweetie, that’s not the kind of team I’m talking about!
Think of it more like a sports team. If you were on the field playing a sport as part of a team and one of your teammates dropped the ball, you wouldn’t stop in the middle of the game with your hands on your hips and say “Hey, you’re going to screw this up for everybody! What’s wrong with you? You should have done it like this instead!”
No, you just pick up the ball and run with it! That’s true team spirit. It’s when the other person’s problems are your problems and their goals are your goals! That’s the kind of team it takes to create an unshakable love — where nothing and nobody can come between the two of you.
Well, if you are in a relationship like that, that is not the formula for creating an unshakable love! Any relationship where one or both partners speak badly about the other partner or tear them down is a fragile relationship that can’t withstand the next challenge that’s coming down the road, whether that be a financial crisis, an ailing parent, loss of a job, or a health crisis. These big stressors are just a part of life.
Keep reading the solution to building a rock-solid marriage even when life gets stressful at YourTango.com: How To Create An Unshakable Love
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