Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 6

June 19, 2012 at 4:56 pm , by

Hello Croatia! I’m definitely making a mental note to visit ASAP. Right off the bat, Emily hands Travis a date card and they stroll around the picturesque city of Dubrovnik.  Travis has been in the shadows for me this whole season, so I had no idea how this date would turn out, and sadly, it didn’t turn out very well for him and he was sent home. But hey, the girl knows what she likes and I can appreciate that! Was it because he failed to take his shirt off on the balancing stone? Haha. In all seriousness though, it was sad to watch Travis go home. He wore his heart on his sleeve throughout the date but he couldn’t get beyond the “friend zone.”

The group date to watch the movie Brave was cute. I like how Emily really came across as a strong, independent woman because those are traits that I admire in anyone. For this date the guys donned skirts—yet again!—to compete in some ancient games. I guess skirts are the new hot tub? Poor Chris struggled big time but his bravery came through in the end when he challenged Doug, the biggest guy in the group, and earned himself a rose. Go Chris! We also got to see a different side of Jef when he confessed he was crazy about Emily, and now I’m starting to see more of a connection between them.

Now on to Ryan…I’ve had a bad feeling about this guy from day one and now I know why. After he and Emily left for their solo date, the other guys talked about how much they dislike Ryan. The date got off to a fun start as they hit the water to catch some oysters, but when they got some alone time to chat, Ryan decided to throw out the whole “trophy wife” slang. Seriously? Hello! What century are you living in? See ya around, Ryan. Emily made a good call in this situation, although for a second there I thought she was going to change her mind and hand him the rose. I’m glad she stuck to her instincts and sent him off. Then Arie proved to Emily that he has her back when he snuck out to see her and for that, he got a rose and a kiss, again! I like a man that can defend his girl.

Before the rose ceremony Emily and John had a chat and I started to see John’s soft side coming through, but I was still left wondering if he’s the kind of passionate guy that will make it all the way. Emily gave Doug some pointers, encouraging him to pursue her more and to be more confident. And to my (and I’m sure everyone else’s) surprise, she didn’t send anyone home at the rose ceremony. Who do you think should have been sent home at the rose ceremony this week?

Next week, Emily learns some unsettling news about Arie and a previous relationship with a producer on the show. Is that going to be a game changer for Arie?  I’m on pins and needles! Finally, some drama.

Until next time,


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Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 5

June 12, 2012 at 2:11 pm , by

I found it pretty ironic that the episode where Emily felt the most disrespected is the episode where I gained the most respect for her. Sometimes it takes dealing with a real jerk to make you see how great you really are. I felt like we all could relate to Emily’s experience in last night’s episode, and I was so proud of her for standing up for herself and firing back to tell Kalon how she felt. I’m not sure if it was her raspy little voice or just a shift in the whole process, but I think Emily really came out of her shell. She was a little funnier, a little edgier and not afraid to speak her mind. It was so refreshing!

Remember how I said this season would be much different because of the pressure to find someone who’s good for her daughter too? This episode made me realize that having little Ricki throughout this process is actually a bit of an advantage for Emily—it really does separate the boys from the men. It’s pretty easy to see that the boys are caving under the pressure, but I do have to give these guys major props. I’m definitely a “guy’s girl” and I’ve dated a few guys since my big split, and I know that we girls have no problem talking about babies, marriages, and happily-ever-afters, while most guys will freak out. So we really got to see who might be ready for all of that and I think there are some real gems in this group.

Speaking of pressure, how adorable were Doug and Arie dressed up as girlies tonight? I was laughing so hard. There’s a level of empathy, of course, but when you can turn a super awkward scenario like that into something goofy and funny—to me, that is so attractive. Good job boys.

I really loved Doug tonight.  I have noticed him a few times this season but tonight he showed a really sexy and sensitive side, which is a rare combination. I’m excited to see how his relationship with Emily evolves as the season progresses. Read more

Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 4

June 5, 2012 at 4:55 pm , by

Well guys, the fourth episode was set in Bermuda and I have to say that I’m finally starting to get hooked! I loved hearing Emily be open and candid about what she wants for her future, and to be honest it was a real eye opener for me. Being single and so stubborn the last few years, I haven’t worried too much about starting a family or a new relationship again. But Emily painted a pretty cute picture of what she wants and made it sound really appealing! It also seems like there are some great men in this group of bachelors, and I don’t know if Emily brings it out in them, but during my season the guys were a bit more goofy and young at heart. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my season, but these guys do seem a little more “manly” with the exception of Charlie when he was crying in the car. I love Charlie, but oh my gosh that was a little…wrong!

Doug got the first date and I was so happy that he got a rose. He’s just my style—big arms, tall and nervous in a cute way. I actually liked how he dropped the f-bomb. Plus, he’s a dad, so the date felt really natural and the post card was adorable! The moment where they walked through the Moon Gate reminded me of Ed and I in Sevilla. I think Emily’s main issue with Doug is that he seems too perfect! But I think that on this show, you don’t find out certain things until later on in the relationship.

Arie is hot, but a little immature. He had good insight when it came to Ryan calling Emily a trophy wife. And when he said he missed Emily and kissed her it made my heart pitter patter. I think his ability to communicate and be open is really important. I have mixed feelings about Arie for Emily, but I do see the strongest connection between the two of them. Read more

Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 3

May 29, 2012 at 3:45 pm , by

Finally! I was starting to worry about this season of The Bachelorette but this week’s episode certainly didn’t disappoint. Things are really starting to pick up—three guys were sent home, Dolly Parton made a surprise appearance, and some of the guys started showing their true colors. I’m glad we got less cheesy moments and more raw personalities!

I was so impressed by both Chris and Arie, the lucky guys who scored one-on-one dates this episode. But I have to say I am leaning towards team Arie right now and I’m pretty sure he hit a home run last night. Go Arie!

It was so adorable watching the guys play at the park with the kids, but I suspect that a few of them were putting on a show for Emily. Speaking of…is it just me or does Ryan give you guys the heebie-jeebies too?

Poor Tony! I think Emily made the right decision to send him home sooner rather than later. It was nice to see Doug there to support Tony since he’s a single dad too. After tonight Doug definitely earned a spot in my good book.

I was so confused by Kalon’s moves; I have no clue what he’s thinking. This dude is walking on thin ice. I’m pretty sure he’ll be firing up his chopper next week to head back home.

I also must say, it was great to see some fire in Emily—I didn’t think she had it in her. These guys are going get put through the ringer, and rightfully so. She deserves the world! I remember during my journey on The Bachelorette, that this was around the time when I started to get fed up with the guys who I knew weren’t there for the right reasons, so I started to get a bit feisty. And I think that’s a good thing, because it means Emily knows what she’s looking for! It looks like Bermuda is on tap for next week…and that means more boys with less clothes, hehe!

Until next week,


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Ali Fedotowsky Blogs The Bacheor: Episode 6

February 7, 2012 at 4:01 pm , by

Hi Bachelor friends! I don’t know why, but I actually found myself laughing a lot during this episode—there were so many random and awkward moments. Let’s talk about the good stuff first.

It speaks volumes that Kacie B. got a second one-on-one date. At this point in the episode, we can pretty much be certain that Ben isn’t into the girls who haven’t gotten a one-on-one date up until now. So Jamie, Casey S. and Blakely were all no longer options for me right from the start of this episode. I found it really funny that on Ben’s date with Kacie he said, “Relationships are all about overcoming fears,” while chopping a coconut. Is Ben afraid of coconuts? No wonder Blakely hasn’t gotten a one-on-one! ;) Okay, okay…I couldn’t resist.

Ben and Kacie are so adorable together, right? I love that she was able to open up to him about such a difficult time in her life and I’m really glad that she got the help she needed. Eating disorders are no joke. The pressure women (and men) are under to look a certain way is huge and I hope all of the girls watching out there know that being skinny is not what makes you beautiful. Being healthy is what makes you beautiful, being kind is what makes you beautiful and being YOU is what makes you beautiful.

The kiss between Ben and Kacie at the end of their date was sweet. Her leg flip up (Sex in the City style) was so cute and tells us that she really enjoyed the kiss. Don’t worry Kacie, if Ben doesn’t pick you just call me because I adore you!

There was a lot of awkwardness on the group date as usual. I think it’s blatantly obvious that Courtney is using her sexuality to get what she wants; it’s a bit over the top at this point. I think it would have been fine for her not to wear a bathing suit when dancing with the tribe (do as the locals do) if she and Ben were in a committed, monogamous relationship, but they absolutely are not. There were a bunch of other girls on the date and she should’ve respected that. I’m having a hard time understanding her. She seems to think that the other girls aren’t making “moves” on the date, but the reason they aren’t making moves is because usually all of the girls become friends during the season. So on the group dates, they’re all trying to respect each other and each person’s relationship with Ben. That’s how I felt on my season anyway, and I’m glad I respected the other girls on group dates because some of them became my best friends. I feel bad for Courtney because she isn’t going to come out of this experience with any lifelong friends. Or maybe she will and there’s something we aren’t seeing. I hope she did make friends, for her sake. Read more

Ali Fedotowsky Blogs The Bachelor: Episode 5

January 31, 2012 at 4:18 pm , by

Hi friends! Welcome back :-) In last night’s episode, all of the girls got to go on a date with Ben, so I was happy for them—it would really stink to be in Puerto Rico and not be able to go out and explore. Speaking of tropical places, I just got back from the beautiful Casa Dorada resort in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico and I’m exhausted after an incredible trip with my girlfriends. So I apologize if my blog isn’t on point this time around, but I promise to make up for it next week!

I was really glad that Nikki got a date this week. I liked her the first night but we haven’t really gotten to know her since. Nikki seems really genuine and I loved seeing how relaxed she was with Ben. And even though I think it’s good that Nikki opened up about her marriage, I don’t think it’s a good thing to tell a guy that you had trust issues in your past relationship without going into more detail and explaining why you felt that way. I feel like that puts a warning sign in his head that says, “I’m going to lose my freedom if I get into a relationship with this girl!” I could be totally wrong, but that’s my observation based on my experience with guys. However, I will say that I thought their kiss was super passionate—heck, even I started blushing a little. I think Ben really likes Nikki, or at least really likes kissing her.

The group date this week seemed like a lot of fun. Baseball is such a great idea for a date and I’m all for a little healthy sports competition! I found it very interesting that Ben got to choose a woman to take on the night portion of the date, and it means a lot that he picked Lindzi. It’s not a rose, but in my opinion it’s much better. Usually roses are given to some people because you don’t want to be harsh and send someone home on a one-on-one date. And sometimes you give a rose on a group date to someone who you haven’t spent that much time with, so you want them to feel better by getting the rose. Believe me, there are hundreds of reasons why roses are given out. If who the roses were given to didn’t get switched up every once in a while, I would have given my group date roses to one of three or four guys every single time. However, giving Lindzi more “time” is much more special, and it shows that he wants to be around her and get to know her better. I’m not sure if this makes sense to you guys, but it makes perfect sense in my head, maybe because I lived through it.

On the group date Kacie B. got the rose. I loved when Ben gave her the rose and stated a bunch of reasons why he wanted to give it to her, because I think when he isn’t all that into a girl he’ll usually just say something like “I want to get to know you more.” Yay, Kacie B! I love her to pieces.

I think Elyse is a sweetheart, but I feel bad because I didn’t even know her name until this episode. That fact alone was enough for me to know that she wasn’t going to make it very far in this because the viewers didn’t even know her yet! It was very obvious to me throughout the date that Ben wasn’t feeling it. He wasn’t really talking to her and he was just repeating things she said. I also don’t think Elyse really liked Ben that much; I don’t think she was crying for him per se, I think it was more because she wanted to stay on the show and was maybe hoping for that fairy tale ending. In the end, Ben did the right thing. If you don’t feel it, you can’t force it. Read more

Ali Fedotowsky Blogs The Bachelor: Episode 4

January 24, 2012 at 4:23 pm , by

It’s week four of The Bachelor and there was no shortage of drama this week. My goodness, the claws really came out last night.

Let’s start by talking about how beautiful Park City, Utah is. The countryside is simply breathtaking. Obviously Ben loves the outdoors and is very adventurous so I think it was a great place for him to spend time with all of the women. But I have one question at this point—is it normal for people to still not have gone on individual dates this far in the season? I don’t remember it being week four and guys still not getting dates on my season. Help me out here…my memory is not serving me well today!

The first date went to Rachel, and Kacie B. really took it hard. Poor thing—she is just the cutest and has the sweetest little accent, so it broke my heart to see her cry at the beginning of Ben’s date with Rachel. It was also touching when she said that she hates seeing him go on other dates, but she loves that she gets to see him, if only for a few moments before the date. So sweet.

But the show must go on and The Bachelor wouldn’t be complete without a few helicopter rides! Rachel started off the date by saying that her last relationship ended because of communication issues, and boy was that comment foreshadowing. I think Ben gave her a rose to be nice. I just don’t see how he could think that they could have something long term when they had such a hard time communicating. There were definitely instances on my season where I would give a guy a rose because I liked him as a person and didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Not giving someone a rose on a one-on-one date is a lot harsher then not giving someone a rose at a rose ceremony. I’m also not completely convinced that Rachel is into Ben. I think she wants to stay because you never know what could happen, but as of right now, I don’t think she is feeling him at all.

This week’s group date was really cool because it was so normal. Ben riding the horse with the girls reminded me of riding the horses with the guys in Iceland. Remember how Craig R. got the smallest horse? It was basically the runt of the group and Craig is 6’4” so it was pretty funny. Anyway, I also absolutely loved the fishing part of the date. It seemed like a lot of fun and it’s something that Ben might actually do with his fiancé in the future. Read more