Facebook and My Kids: Am I over-sharing?

January 19, 2012 at 2:11 pm , by

There are different kinds of people on Facebook. Personally, I fall somewhere between the kind that can’t eat lunch without sharing what kind of salad dressing they had, and those who you forget are on Facebook because they never post or comment. I post a few times a week — sometimes more (sorry!) — but I always try to make it funny, interesting, or just plain cute (it helps when your kids are adorable!). Some might think I over-share, especially when it comes to my kids. I mean, I once posted a video of Lily at age 2 sitting on the potty singing Beyonce songs. (What? It was cropped from the waist up!) Here’s my theory: I share with my Facebook friends what I would share with a real friend. Sure, there are co-workers and business contacts that I count among my Facebook friends but they’re only the ones that I’m actually friends with in real life. I’ve had some random publicists (that I’ve never met!) try to friend me and I’ve said no. For those people, you can follow my fashion posts on twitter @lhjFashionLady or read my blogs on lhj.com or even just pick up the magazine to see my stories. (Ugh – writing that list makes me feel like I’m everywhere! Aren’t you sick of me? Why are you still reading this?)

I have a friend who has vowed to raise his child “Facebook-free”. It should come as no surprise that I don’t know anything about his daughter. I think of Facebook as a nice place to share some stories. In fact, my husband has several family members in Argentina who have never met our kids but get to know all about them via Facebook. How is that a bad thing?

I’m certainly not a private person (I mean, why should I care if someone wants to see Sophia’s latest fashion ensemble? I mean, she is pretty cute!) but I suppose I could use a good “friend clean-up”. I mean, why am I letting the guy who was a cocky jerk in Jr. High enjoy beautiful pictures of my kids? Admittedly, I only accepted his friend request to see if he held onto his good looks or if he got fat and bald. Answer: It was the latter and for some twisted reason that kinda makes me happy.
So, I’ll do a little friend housekeeping (goodbye Jr. High jerk!) but for those of you that I keep on my list, you can count on me to keep over-sharing everything about my kids, my husband, my job, my blogs, my vacations, my house, and my life. And if it’s too much for you, go ahead and unfriend me. I don’t mind.

Facebook Black Friday Shopping Deals

November 24, 2010 at 11:51 am , by

I’ve left the house to shop on Black Friday only once. I came home with plenty of bargain purchases, but I was also permanently scarred by the crowds of rabid shoppers. Now I spend the day after Thanksgiving eating leftovers and shopping from the comfort of my living room.

One of the most exciting parts of this year’s shopping craze is the number of stores using Facebook to promote their Black Friday specials. Instead of scouring the internet for deals, I’ll simply “Like” my favorite stores’ fan pages and they’ll send coupons and promotions right to my inbox. How convenient is that? As a bonus, many stores are also offering sweepstakes and giveaways to their Facebook fans. (Of course, if you really love the idea of free stuff, enter our Holiday Gift Guide Giveaway.)

For discounts and deals on everything from art and décor to home improvement supplies, check out the Facebook pages of participating sites like Lowes, Overstock.com, and Soap.com. And don’t think that only the big chains are using Facebook promos—many local businesses use the site to advertise special deals directly to their fans. You can show support for your favorite indie shops and restaurants this weekend on Small Business Saturday. American Express is giving registered Cardmembers a $25 statement credit when they shop at participating small businesses on Saturday November 27th.

So search around for your favorites, both big and small, and get ready to save!

How will you spend Black Friday–shopping online or in the stores? Or relaxing and recovering from a day of big eating?

Do Good: Real-Life Fairytales

September 27, 2010 at 10:31 am , by


Maybe I just needed a little warm-fuzzy on this gloomy, rainy day here in New York. But I am loving the heartwarming Facebook Fairytales, a sort of less-cheesy Chicken Soup For the Soul of the social networking era. There are, of course, plenty of slightly-stalker activities to do on Facebook (why, exactly, do I need know so many intimate details about people I haven’t seen in 15 years?), and plenty more time-wasters (Farmville, anyone?).

But the story of the parents who were finally able to adopt a child after posting their plea on Facebook, or the young mom dying of kidney failure who is now alive and well thanks to a kidney from a friend of a friend found via the site…  well, they got me. If you have a soft spot for acts of kindness and do good stories (and c’mon, who doesn’t?), I bet they’ll get you too.

Sara’s Tech Tips: Important Facebook Privacy Steps

June 9, 2010 at 10:01 am , by


Addicted to Facebook? Me too. But you may have seen the mega social networking site in the news a lot lately because they’ve changed their privacy controls several times in the last few months leaving many users confused about how to keep their personal info under wraps. It’s important to take a few steps to make sure you’re only sharing your photos, email address or even phone number with people who you trust. I’ll walk you through each step and why it’s important.

Step 1: Friend Lists
These days many of us are Facebook friends with everyone from old high school boyfriends to family members to bosses. With such a mixed bag of people, you probably want to limit the information you share to these different groups of people. To do this you divide your friends into categories such as family, friends, and colleagues. Although it may take awhile, you only have to do it once (and I assure you it’s well worth it). These categories can serve as distribution lists whenever you want to send information to a specific group (like a book club meeting or reunion information). You can also limit photos to friends or family without your boss or work colleagues seeing them, or keep your work-day status updates (“Is it lunch time yet?”) out of the news feeds of your professional network.

How To: Log into Facebook. When you’re on the home screen, go to the left hand side of your screen and click on “friends.”  Then click on the “create list” button at the top of the page. A window will pop up and ask you to name the list and then you click through your friends to add them.

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Do Good: Cleaning For A Cause

May 3, 2010 at 9:33 am , by

cleaning-facebookIf you have a loved one who’s been through a major medical event like cancer, you know what a toll treatments can take—and how hard it can be for them to keep up with normal day-to-day life. The very last thing you want your friend or family member worrying about is cleaning the house. That’s why we love Cleaning For A Reason, which we featured in our March issue of LHJ. The organization provides free housecleaning services for women across the country who are undergoing treatment for any type of cancer. It’s a great idea and a great cause, which is why we were excited to hear that Hoover is partnering with the foundation to raise up to $25,000 for Cleaning For A Reason. All you have to do is “Like” (the new Facebook word for becoming a fan—yep they changed it) either Hoover’s page or Cleaning For A Reason’s page, and they’ll donate $1 for every new fan. Any easy way to do good today!

Are You Giving Up Something for Lent?

February 17, 2010 at 1:32 pm , by

gchatThis might sound silly, but in the spirit of Lent, I’m giving up Gchat/AIM.*

I’m addicted to the Internet. Facebook, Twitter, email, you name it. My particular “vice”: GChat. I love chatting. I need chatting. In this fast-food-fast-cars-fast-lane age of interconnectedness, the interwebs keeps me up-to-date with my friends, family and coworkers. It’s not all a bad thing. How else could I conduct five conversations at the same time?

But it also keeps me distracted. Women are good multi-taskers (we’re women after all), but we also need to slow things down. I have a sneaky suspicion that if we took some time to pause and reflect on our lives—our work lives, personal lives and spiritual lives—we’d feel a little saner, a little more grounded.

Are you giving up something for Lent? Or doing something to better yourself during Lent? (Hint, hint: This is also the perfect time to rededicate yourself to those New Year’s fitness resolutions).

*Okay, maybe no GChat after 7pm.

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