marriage advice

Can This Marriage Be Saved? Royal Wedding Bonanza

April 28, 2011 at 12:29 pm , by

It’s a Royal Wedding World, and we’re just living in it. Whatever your opinion of the noble nuptials, one thing’s for sure: You’ll know alllll about every detail of this entire blissful day by the time the party’s over. Of course, the spectacle is a bright spot for the royal family, a bit of happy news for a drama-drenched monarchy. The world will see and hear (and scrutinize) all the couple’s choices for their big day, from the music and the food to the guest list and the dress. (And really, I’m not all that invested in the Big Show myself, but I am SUPER curious about the dress!!) Every bride can probably relate to fixating on the tiny details of her wedding day to make it perfect – whatever perfect may mean to her.

But one thing that seems to get lost in the planning of any wedding – royal or common – is that after the whole big shebang is over, the bride and groom will be. . . husband and wife. Yes, they’ll be thrilled if the day is success, but it’s not a great DJ, a top-notch photographer or a kick-butt fillet mignon that makes or breaks a marriage.

We happen to think that, with their years-long courtship, sincere love for each other and general rational-seeming personalities, Wills and Kate will do just fine. But in the spirit of remembering that after the wedding comes the marriage, we’d like to offer the happy couple some of our surprising secrets to a lifelong union, as told by relationship experts of all sorts. Read more

Can This Marriage Be Saved? I’m Bored With My Husband

March 4, 2011 at 11:11 am , by

m_101210966It’s not tough to understand why those early years of marriage – the child-free, travel-ready, never-too-tired-for-sex ones – could be the happiest of all your wedded years. According to new research from Britain’s Understanding Society, older couples are far less content in their unions than younger ones, and young, childless couples are happiest of all. Not really shocking stuff. But what happens when you hit those middle-of-the-road years and find yourself a bit . . . bored? That’s the case for Emily, a 36-year old schoolteacher and mother of two who’s been married to Joe, 40, for 15 years, in this week’s story.

Emily’s turn Her husband is total dullsville. He used to have interests like reading and woodworking and took her on romantic trips on the spur of the moment, but now he’s so focused on running his insurance business and taking care of their house that he does nothing else. She’s not attracted to him anymore, since he’s gained some weight and wears old-man clothes, so they rarely have sex. Her close friend, Deb, is getting a divorce and moving across the country, and Emily’s jealous of her freedom and daydreaming about leaving, too. Joe was her first and only boyfriend and she married him at 21, mostly to escape her overbearing parents that clearly favored her older brother. And she’s bored with work, too: She never wanted to be a teacher but took the job to please her parents. They’ve always been an issue for Joe, who thinks they control his wife. Either way, Emily just can’t find any redeeming qualities in her husband anymore. Read more

The Cutest Marriage Advice We’ve Ever Heard

February 24, 2011 at 3:44 pm , by

The mouths of babes, indeed. This progressive little lady sure knows what she wants! We have a feeling Miss Independent will have that job, and a great man, too (when she’s old enough, of course). And maybe more all-grown-up, married ladies wish they took her advice! 

Tell us, what advice would you give to your unmarried self, if you could turn back the clock to this little one’s age? Is there anything you wish you’d done or settled before you tied the knot?

Can This Marriage Be Saved? You Be The Judge

October 22, 2010 at 7:35 am , by

1366_001Ladies’ Home Journal has been around for a loooooong time (128 years to be precise). And while we’re not normally ones to brag, allow us just a smidgen of gloating: Our famous column, Can This Marriage Be Saved?, has been a huge favorite since it debuted in the magazine in January 1953. Throughout the 57 years we’ve run the column (much longer than most marriages, I might add), we’ve tackled everything from cheating spouses to secret porn habits, fights over the stepkids to battles over the dog. Though the complaints are different, one theme always emerges, whether the couple in question each month has a ton of tiny problems or a few massive ones: Communication helps EVERYTHING.

In the spirit of our celebrated, iconic column, we’d like to ask you to referee the battle between our controversial couples. Each Thursday, we’ll take a classic case from the column and give you the chance to weigh in. Our debut story is the very first Can This Marriage Be Saved? article published in LHJ (the black-and-white image above ran in the issue!), involving Guy, a 25-year-old mechanic, and Diana, a 22-year-old secretary, who’ve been married for six years. (A bride at 16! Suddenly I feel behind in life.) Read more