The Bachelor

Ali Fedotowsky Blogs The Bachelor: Episode 3

January 17, 2012 at 3:32 pm , by

Hi guys! So much happened in last night’s episode of The Bachelor—people left, surprise visitors showed up and the claws came out! Despite everything that went down, I simply loved watching this episode because I was so excited that the dates were in San Francisco, my neighborhood!

I love how this season focuses on taking the girls to places where they’ll be living in real life if they end up with Ben after the show is over. I also think it’s great that Ben got to talk to his sister about the girls early on. I didn’t get to talk to my family about the guys until I was down to the final two, and it’s hard going through everything in the beginning without being able to talk to the people you love about it. Oh, and is it just me or does Ben’s sister look like a cross between Shawntel Newton and Kourntey Kardashian? If you don’t remember what she looks like, Google her. She’s a dead ringer for those two! Also, the place Ben and his sister were eating at during the episode is called The Grove and it’s in the Marina district of San Francisco. It’s funny because I go there all the time—it was so weird seeing him at all of the places I go to everyday. I have a feeling that we’re all going to be best friends when Ben and his new fiancé move back to San Francisco after the show! ;)

Let’s talk about Emily—she’s such a cutie! I love getting to know the girls better as the show goes on and I’m realizing that Ben has a great group of girls to choose from. Their date was pretty spectacular and somewhat reminded me of my first date with Roberto when we walked a tightrope between two buildings in Los Angeles. People ask me if I was nervous when we did that and I always say no. It was actually a lot of fun and not scary at all. That said, what Emily and Ben did on the bridge looked terrifying! Walking along a bridge like that seems dangerous with all of the cars rushing by! Their dinner together was adorable, though. I think they had a great connection and it was so endearing when he said that she was smarter than him. Emily is definitely a contender in this; I think she will go far.

Then there was the group date—I can’t believe they got to shut down a street in San Francisco and ski down it! The girls were seriously brave for skiing in their bathing suits. I never would have been able to do that. Kacie had me cracking up the whole time; she was such a good sport! The evening part of the date wasn’t super-interesting to me, but it was nice to see Ben and Kacie reconnect. I know how hard it is trying to remember your connection with the bachelor and not focus on the connections you see him forming with other girls. She seems like she’s doing a great job with that. Read more

Ali Fedotowsky Blogs The Bachelor: Episode 2

January 10, 2012 at 3:03 pm , by

Another week of The Bachelor and I absolutely loved tonight’s episode. Lots of drama, tears (both good and bad) and the beginnings of love—all of the things we love about this show. I want to start off by saying that I will use this blog to share my thoughts on Ben’s season, but I will also relate it to my own experience—I hope you guys like that format. I feel like the reason most of you are reading this is because I have a unique view of what happens on the show (because I experienced it) and I will express those views using examples from my time as the bachelorette. Though I do have to admit, watching the show brings back old memories and it’s hard to watch sometimes, so bear with me and I hope you enjoy!

The first date of the season went to the adorable Kacie B. I was really surprised to see that Kacie’s date started when it was dark out—normally the dates go all day and into the night. But it seemed like the little time they spent together was good quality time, and that’s all that matters. I love that Ben was a good sport about twirling the baton while marching down the street even though he was really bad at it! The chemistry between the two of them was great to see.

They talked about some pretty heavy stuff for a first date but they both seemed so comfortable. One thing I took pride in on my season was that I was always 100% “real” with all of the guys and I never wanted it to seem like we were making a show or I was giving a speech. And what I like about Ben is that he is real! It’s so clear to me that he isn’t trying to put on a show or lead on the girls, and I really appreciate his genuineness. The childhood videos at the end of the date had me in tears. Watching something that personal on a first date could have been really awkward for Ben if he wasn’t with the right girl, so I’m glad he had a great girl like Kacie by his side for that. The only person I have ever been really close to that has passed away is my grandmother, and if I heard her voice for the first time in five years I would just lose it. Seeing the tears in Ben’s eyes touched my heart. Read more

Ali Fedotowsky Blogs The Bachelor: It All Starts Here

January 3, 2012 at 5:00 pm , by

Please welcome the lovely Ali Fedotowsky to the Ladies’ Lounge blog! She was the lucky lady with her pick of 25 men on season six of The Bachelorette, and now she’s recapping the new season of The Bachelor with us! Be sure to check back each week for her take on the new episodes.

Hi guys! I’m so excited to watch this season of The Bachelor with all of you! This first blog is going to be a bit all over the place since the first episode of the season is really just about meeting the girls. It feels so surreal that it’s been two years since I was one of the girls walking out of the limo to meet the bachelor. The funny thing is, I was super sick the night I met the bachelor and I’m really sick today too. Something about the anticipation of this night must kill my immune system. Maybe I’m allergic to roses! ;)

Let’s start with Ben. I really like him. He seems like a normal, chill guy looking for love. Plus he owns a winery, which puts him ahead of the game in my book! I wish we saw a little more of his interactions with the girls during this episode, but I guess there was too much drama going on. I hope the next episode focuses on Ben’s connections with the girls a little more.

Jenna: The poor thing definitely overanalyzes everything. I really liked her at the beginning of the show and then she just took things way too seriously! There was a lot of awkwardness between her and Ben during their first meeting, but I thought she would recover. She definitely didn’t. Instead, she turned the show into some sort of tragic comedy. I wanted to feel bad for her, but then I couldn’t help but laugh at the ridiculous things she was saying. I have to say the “maybe we can share a tampon sometime” statement was hilarious and sad at the same time. Where did that come from?! I have to wonder if that was a spontaneous comment or if she had said that sometime before. Either way, she should never use that saying again… ever. My conclusion on Jenna is that I think she was drunk and this just isn’t the right experience for her.

Nikki: I think Nikki is a sweetheart and I find it very interesting that she is a dental hygienist. She reminds me of former bachelorette Ashley Herbert—which makes me like her even more! Ben seemed to like her when they first met outside of the limo and their one-on-one time was nice too.

Casey S.: She was so beautiful and sweet, although she didn’t have much to say when they first met. I hope we hear more form her throughout the season.

Brittney: How cute is Brittney’s grandma, Sheryl?! I love my grandma so much, and I just loved that Brittney’s grandmother came with her. I would have given ANYTHING to have my grandma there with me that first night. I feel like Brittney and I have a lot in common based on the little bit we got to know about her. I hope we get to see a lot more of her! Read more

Tenley Molzahn Talks the Season Finale of The Bachelor

March 15, 2011 at 6:13 pm , by

As I watched the season finale of The Bachelor, my heart and mind were in reflection mode. It was only a year ago that my own journey came to an end on television, but my real journey was just beginning. I had an incredible and healing experience while I was on the show that has led me to where I am in life right now.

I remember getting out of the helicopter in St. Lucia and Chris Harrison greeting me. I had been praying that if this was not the man for me, I would know and he would know too. The moment I saw my bachelor, I knew what was about to go down. I had such a great peace within me and I knew that everything was going to be okay. I don’t mean that saying goodbye and facing rejection was easy, but coming out of it I was able to know what I could conquer and that what was “right” for me was in my future.

A year later I have grown so much, and I have found a new confidence that’s helped me learn what I desire in a relationship. I’ve also learned how to allow someone to love me, and to love myself, so that I can only love someone back even more! Who would have thought anyone could learn so much from a show like The Bachelor? Without my Bachelor journey, I wouldn’t be in the place where I am today and with the man that has shared a true love with me. I am grateful.

Tenley Molzahn Talks Episode 10 of The Bachelor

March 8, 2011 at 12:22 pm , by

During my season of The Bachelor I didn’t get to participate in the “Women Tell All” episode because I was one of the last two girls, so I didn’t get to have the reunion that all of the other girls had with each other. Watching this episode brought back different memories for me, and I also came to a special realization.

Women can really stir up some drama and sadly, it can be entertaining to watch. I cringed as the women fought back and forth, but especially when they singled each other out. It strangely took me back to a moment when I felt like I was in the hot seat at the Bachelor Pad finale. It never feels good to have someone pointing their finger at you or saying mean things to you, no matter what the truth is. I am a very sensitive person, and unfortunately I’ve been known to “emote” very easily. During the filming of the Bachelor Pad finale I was so blessed to have my boyfriend Kiptyn’s hand to hold.

Watching this episode brought that moment in the “hot seat” back to me, but I also realized how I had a new strength and confidence about myself as those hurtful words came at me. I hadn’t thought about that moment until now, and now I know that the hand I was holding enriched my strength, and for that I am so grateful. When you look at your relationships with the ones you love—a significant other, friends, family members—allow them to enrich you, and give them that gift as well.

Tenley Molzahn Talks Episode 9 of The Bachelor

March 1, 2011 at 3:13 pm , by

Tenley pic“It’s time to take our relationship to the next level…” This is the line often used during the fantasy suite date on The Bachelor, but it doesn’t necessarily mean what you think. The fantasy date is the first time the bachelor and his lady get to spend some time away from the cameras so they can really get to know each other, and I don’t mean that in an intimate way. It’s an opportunity to ask silly questions that wouldn’t make for good TV like, what’s your favorite dessert? Or, where did you go to college? The answers won’t make or break a future, but they do help you feel like you’re getting to know someone a little better.

When I was on the show I was extremely nervous to accept that fantasy suite invite. The whole date I knew it was coming, but I wasn’t sure of what my bachelor’s expectations were and that made me really anxious. I said yes to going to the fantasy suite, but I made sure he knew that I wanted us to use that time to get to know each other while the cameras weren’t around and to catch up on all of the typical first date questions we bypassed. We talked about our childhoods, our friends back at home, our favorite music, books and all that kind of stuff. That would have been a snooze-fest on TV! But of course there is some “smooching” without the cameras around, unless the couple has nothing in common!

So often, the girl chosen at the end of The Bachelor is thought of as the winner, and she is in some ways because hopefully she has “won” true love. But it shouldn’t be so much about competition, it should be more about the compatibility of two people. So last night, who really worked together as a couple behind closed doors? It’s hard to know with all the editing that’s involved, and we didn’t get to see every minute of the dates, but now it’s down to two. Which woman will get him down on one knee?

Tenley Molzahn Talks Episode 8 of The Bachelor

February 22, 2011 at 11:24 am , by

Tenley MolzhanHometown dates are probably one of the most significant elements of The Bachelor because you’re bringing that person into your life, introducing them to the people that have influenced you, and taking them to a place that is familiar to you. Two people could share incredible chemistry and be totally compatible, but when you’re trying to mesh two lives together you’ve got to be real with each other about your individual lives. Dating on The Bachelor moves at such a rapid pace, so the hometown dates are beyond important.

When I took my Bachelor to my little hometown of Newberg, Oregon it was very emotional for my family and I, but especially for my parents and sister. It was such a strange and exciting thing for them to see me walk into their house holding the hand of a man I had only met weeks before. But I was grinning ear to ear, and I could tell that they were so relieved. Being on The Bachelor takes you away from your real life for weeks and you don’t have any contact with your loved ones, so imagine my family’s anxiety while I was gone—they were wondering and praying that I was alright. But there I was, better than I was the last time they’d seen me, full of confidence and smiling.

As I look back I think of what it took for my whole family to not only open up to a man that was dating their daughter, but also to television cameras and producers. l now know how overwhelming, emotional, and exciting it was for all of them. I’m really thankful that my family was so open.

The hometown dates reminded me of how important it is to be a “team” with your significant other. I’m looking forward to seeing which woman makes the best team with Brad next week!