The Bachelorette

Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Season Finale!

July 24, 2012 at 2:46 pm , by

The finale has finally arrived! You guys know that I have been team Jef all the way, so I had my fingers crossed for them. I remember when I was down to the last two on my finale; I had truly fallen for all three final guys. It’s so hard when you realize time how quickly time has flown by and you have to make a decision for the final rose.

Meeting the parents is obviously a huge decision and of course, Emily had little Ricki to think of as well. It’s all about making sure that whatever guy she chooses was the perfect compliment to not only her life, but Ricki’s life too. I’m a new aunt, and I can only imagine how much stress Emily was under to make sure that she was picking the right guy and not just following along with what her parents think. I’m so fortunate to have a very open family that trusts my judgment and they always supported me through the process. At this point I just wanted them to essentially tell me what to do, but I knew they couldn’t.

Jef is such an amazing, genuine and kind guy. You could just see in his eyes how nervous he was talking to Emily’s mom and to me, that shows how much he loves Emily. I also thought it was great that he asked the family what they thought about Emily doing the show. He really opened himself up and I think Emily’s parents saw honesty in him. Do you guys think that Emily should have introduced Ricki to the guys before she made her decision in order to judge how good they would be with her? It’s such a big step and hard to predict, but I can also understand why she wouldn’t want to confuse Ricki.

I couldn’t believe that Arie would be going up against such tough competition after Jef met the family! It seemed like her family definitely had their mind made up about Jef. Is it just me or did it seem like Arie was talking more about himself than asking questions? Maybe it was just edited that way. And who knew that Arie dated a single mother? I think that gave him a little advantage, but I agree with what Emily’s brother said—his answers felt forced and unnatural. Arie and Emily didn’t have that look in their eyes where you can tell that they’re in love. To be honest, I thought their kiss was a little awkward. It seemed like she was pulling back a little bit, no? Read more

Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 10

July 18, 2012 at 12:57 pm , by

To be honest, I’ve always had a hard time recapping my thoughts on the Men Tell All and Women Tell All specials. To me, we already know who’s a jerk, who’s awesome and who’s not.

I struggled through the beginning of this episode but that came to a screeching halt when I saw the Bachelor Pad previews. I know this is supposed to be all about Emily but I’ve been getting a lot of tweets about Bachelor Pad 3 and I’d like to clarify a few things. I have no qualms about Ed or Reid being on the show, and I’ll probably tune in if I’m at home on a Monday night. I have no opinion on whether I’m on “team Ed” or “team Reid” because I have yet to see what all of the commotion is about. No offense to either guy, but based on my time with a certain one of them I highly doubt it’s actually about me. That ship sailed a long time ago and I’m just happy to see the guys doing something fun and exciting. To be frank, I hope Ed wins, but it might be a surprise to most of you to learn that being the “winner” of The Bachelorette is not financially rewarding. After everything is said and done, he might was well make some benefit from it all. I am in an amazing place in my life right now; I’ve never been happier. So it’s not awkward, weird or sad to see one of ex-boyfriends on the show! You can read more of my thoughts about this on my blog.

A few quick notes about Men Tell All…I was disappointed in Kalon. But I guess it is what it is and I’ll give him one thing—at least he knows who he is and isn’t wishy-washy about it. He stood his ground and didn’t waver. I know his attitude and personality leave something to be desired, but I’ve always said I’d rather be friends with an a**hole who owns it than one who fakes it. Just know who you are and own it! Read more

Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 9

July 10, 2012 at 3:19 pm , by

On last night’s episode, Emily was down to the final three bachelors. I remember this part of the process being so magical. We were in Maui, a place that most of you know I visit often, so it was a special place to me for many reasons. I actually have a very vivid memory—right before my date with Reid I had the morning to myself. I opened up the windows to my big, beautiful room, turned up the music, sipped my coffee and thought about how lucky I was. But it hadn’t hit me yet that I was about to let go of someone who had become really special to me, so I don’t envy Emily at this stage. You truly do have severe feelings for the final three guys. I can’t speak for all of the bachelorettes, but I’m pretty sure that by the final two you know where your heart is headed, but at three there are still a lot of unanswered questions.

Let’s talk about something that might be a bit controversial: Turning down the fantasy dates. I saw quite a few tweets last night from people saying “Good for Emily!” but to be honest I was really confused. If this were “real” life and we were at the point of saying I love you to someone, sleepovers would be happening. This doesn’t mean I think you need to be doing the horizontal polka ladies; I just mean you have a very limited amount of time with this person. And further more, you have to remember there is no off camera or alone time together at this stage.

So think about it: Emily is trying to figure out who she is going to spend the rest of her life with outside of the TV show, but she’s making a decision based on what all of us viewers will think. Do you know how many people have boldly asked me “How many guys did you sleep with while on the show?” Yes, I went on national television and made certain choices but that information is personal no one else’s business. However, I do think that sexual chemistry is important when trying to decide who you’re going to marry. Let’s face it—it’s human nature, and ignoring it because she’s worried about what the rest of the world will think could very well be the same reason why engagement number two didn’t work out. Maybe she’ll decide to have overnight dates when she’s down to the final two, but let’s forget about the sexual chemistry for now. I think she should have accepted those overnight dates simply to get to know the guys more, but to heck with what we all think! Read more

Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 8

July 3, 2012 at 1:55 pm , by

This episode was the one that pulled at my heartstrings the most. My hometown dates on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette are some of my favorite memories of all time. I felt the most comfortable with the guys at that point and like I could just be myself. Plus, the whole process of going those dates made me feel like finding that special someone was truly possible. Meeting the family adds a healthy sense of reality to this whole process, and I’ve always loved all of my ex-boyfriend’s families. To me, this is one of the most important parts of this crazy journey.

The first hometown date just happens to be in Chicago with Chris! My heart will always have a place in Chicago. Oddly enough, even though I chose Ed on The Bachelorette, I never did get that hometown date. Hmm… Anyway, I loved seeing all of the familiar places and corners and things that I loved about Chicago. It made my heart go pitter-patter! I wasn’t really a fan of Chris at the beginning, and I don’t know if it’s because of this Chi-town visit or what, but he’s definitely growing on me! He seems very genuine, but sometimes I feel like he needs to just loosen up a bit. His family also seemed very warm and sweet, however, I have to say I never saw the sparks. It was actually a little boring. :-(

Now on to Jef! First off, I loved Emily’s outfit—so cute. And I love that they went on a western-style date. Jef shooting guns was amazing! Just three minutes into their date I was sold! But how heartbreaking was it that his parents weren’t there? I did kind of like the big family meeting, and I know Emily was intimated, but in the long run I think that approach is worthwhile. I have to admit, I loved Jef’s hipster vibe in the beginning but I didn’t feel that hunky vibe from him until this episode. Maybe it was the farm, the guns or the big family, but now I think this dude is a serious catch. It was also nice to see how playful and cute Emily is with him. She seems like she can totally be herself when they’re together. Read more

Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 7

June 26, 2012 at 2:20 pm , by

This week we’re down to six men in Prague, and I knew by the looks of last week’s preview that things were going to get very interesting.

Is anyone surprised that Arie got the first one-on-one date? Emily didn’t hesitate to confront him about the “little” bit of information he had been keeping from her. It turns out that Arie briefly dated one of the producers on the show years ago. Awkward! Luckily Emily and Arie were able to smooth it over and they were back to locking lips in no time.

Dear John…to be honest he just isn’t doing anything for me. He seemed to think the date went so well that he decided to fill Chris in, and he wasn’t a happy camper about that. Then Sean hit the streets to track down Emily and squeeze in a few kisses. Well played, Sean.

Next up was the group date with Doug, Chris and Sean. A carriage ride took them to a beautiful castle and Doug was the first to get Emily alone. I’m not sure what went wrong, but it wasn’t looking too good for Doug. That awkward kiss between them before Emily sent him packing was painful. Poor guy. Sean prevailed in getting a rose from Emily, and I was hoping Chris would’ve handled it a bit more smoothly, but he really showed a different side of him and it actually made me a little uncomfortable. Was Chris having a bad week or were his true colors shining through? Yikes! Read more

Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 6

June 19, 2012 at 4:56 pm , by

Hello Croatia! I’m definitely making a mental note to visit ASAP. Right off the bat, Emily hands Travis a date card and they stroll around the picturesque city of Dubrovnik.  Travis has been in the shadows for me this whole season, so I had no idea how this date would turn out, and sadly, it didn’t turn out very well for him and he was sent home. But hey, the girl knows what she likes and I can appreciate that! Was it because he failed to take his shirt off on the balancing stone? Haha. In all seriousness though, it was sad to watch Travis go home. He wore his heart on his sleeve throughout the date but he couldn’t get beyond the “friend zone.”

The group date to watch the movie Brave was cute. I like how Emily really came across as a strong, independent woman because those are traits that I admire in anyone. For this date the guys donned skirts—yet again!—to compete in some ancient games. I guess skirts are the new hot tub? Poor Chris struggled big time but his bravery came through in the end when he challenged Doug, the biggest guy in the group, and earned himself a rose. Go Chris! We also got to see a different side of Jef when he confessed he was crazy about Emily, and now I’m starting to see more of a connection between them.

Now on to Ryan…I’ve had a bad feeling about this guy from day one and now I know why. After he and Emily left for their solo date, the other guys talked about how much they dislike Ryan. The date got off to a fun start as they hit the water to catch some oysters, but when they got some alone time to chat, Ryan decided to throw out the whole “trophy wife” slang. Seriously? Hello! What century are you living in? See ya around, Ryan. Emily made a good call in this situation, although for a second there I thought she was going to change her mind and hand him the rose. I’m glad she stuck to her instincts and sent him off. Then Arie proved to Emily that he has her back when he snuck out to see her and for that, he got a rose and a kiss, again! I like a man that can defend his girl.

Before the rose ceremony Emily and John had a chat and I started to see John’s soft side coming through, but I was still left wondering if he’s the kind of passionate guy that will make it all the way. Emily gave Doug some pointers, encouraging him to pursue her more and to be more confident. And to my (and I’m sure everyone else’s) surprise, she didn’t send anyone home at the rose ceremony. Who do you think should have been sent home at the rose ceremony this week?

Next week, Emily learns some unsettling news about Arie and a previous relationship with a producer on the show. Is that going to be a game changer for Arie?  I’m on pins and needles! Finally, some drama.

Until next time,


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Jillian Harris Blogs The Bachelorette: Episode 5

June 12, 2012 at 2:11 pm , by

I found it pretty ironic that the episode where Emily felt the most disrespected is the episode where I gained the most respect for her. Sometimes it takes dealing with a real jerk to make you see how great you really are. I felt like we all could relate to Emily’s experience in last night’s episode, and I was so proud of her for standing up for herself and firing back to tell Kalon how she felt. I’m not sure if it was her raspy little voice or just a shift in the whole process, but I think Emily really came out of her shell. She was a little funnier, a little edgier and not afraid to speak her mind. It was so refreshing!

Remember how I said this season would be much different because of the pressure to find someone who’s good for her daughter too? This episode made me realize that having little Ricki throughout this process is actually a bit of an advantage for Emily—it really does separate the boys from the men. It’s pretty easy to see that the boys are caving under the pressure, but I do have to give these guys major props. I’m definitely a “guy’s girl” and I’ve dated a few guys since my big split, and I know that we girls have no problem talking about babies, marriages, and happily-ever-afters, while most guys will freak out. So we really got to see who might be ready for all of that and I think there are some real gems in this group.

Speaking of pressure, how adorable were Doug and Arie dressed up as girlies tonight? I was laughing so hard. There’s a level of empathy, of course, but when you can turn a super awkward scenario like that into something goofy and funny—to me, that is so attractive. Good job boys.

I really loved Doug tonight.  I have noticed him a few times this season but tonight he showed a really sexy and sensitive side, which is a rare combination. I’m excited to see how his relationship with Emily evolves as the season progresses. Read more