March 1, 2011 at 3:13 pm , by Sonia Harmon
“It’s time to take our relationship to the next level…” This is the line often used during the fantasy suite date on The Bachelor, but it doesn’t necessarily mean what you think. The fantasy date is the first time the bachelor and his lady get to spend some time away from the cameras so they can really get to know each other, and I don’t mean that in an intimate way. It’s an opportunity to ask silly questions that wouldn’t make for good TV like, what’s your favorite dessert? Or, where did you go to college? The answers won’t make or break a future, but they do help you feel like you’re getting to know someone a little better.
When I was on the show I was extremely nervous to accept that fantasy suite invite. The whole date I knew it was coming, but I wasn’t sure of what my bachelor’s expectations were and that made me really anxious. I said yes to going to the fantasy suite, but I made sure he knew that I wanted us to use that time to get to know each other while the cameras weren’t around and to catch up on all of the typical first date questions we bypassed. We talked about our childhoods, our friends back at home, our favorite music, books and all that kind of stuff. That would have been a snooze-fest on TV! But of course there is some “smooching” without the cameras around, unless the couple has nothing in common!
So often, the girl chosen at the end of The Bachelor is thought of as the winner, and she is in some ways because hopefully she has “won” true love. But it shouldn’t be so much about competition, it should be more about the compatibility of two people. So last night, who really worked together as a couple behind closed doors? It’s hard to know with all the editing that’s involved, and we didn’t get to see every minute of the dates, but now it’s down to two. Which woman will get him down on one knee?
February 22, 2011 at 11:24 am , by Sonia Harmon
Hometown dates are probably one of the most significant elements of The Bachelor because you’re bringing that person into your life, introducing them to the people that have influenced you, and taking them to a place that is familiar to you. Two people could share incredible chemistry and be totally compatible, but when you’re trying to mesh two lives together you’ve got to be real with each other about your individual lives. Dating on The Bachelor moves at such a rapid pace, so the hometown dates are beyond important.
When I took my Bachelor to my little hometown of Newberg, Oregon it was very emotional for my family and I, but especially for my parents and sister. It was such a strange and exciting thing for them to see me walk into their house holding the hand of a man I had only met weeks before. But I was grinning ear to ear, and I could tell that they were so relieved. Being on The Bachelor takes you away from your real life for weeks and you don’t have any contact with your loved ones, so imagine my family’s anxiety while I was gone—they were wondering and praying that I was alright. But there I was, better than I was the last time they’d seen me, full of confidence and smiling.
As I look back I think of what it took for my whole family to not only open up to a man that was dating their daughter, but also to television cameras and producers. l now know how overwhelming, emotional, and exciting it was for all of them. I’m really thankful that my family was so open.
The hometown dates reminded me of how important it is to be a “team” with your significant other. I’m looking forward to seeing which woman makes the best team with Brad next week!
May 11, 2010 at 2:48 pm , by Amanda Wolfe
Our long-running, much-loved “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” column is getting another fun new spin. We’re partnering with The Newlywed Game on GSN to bring viewers a “Can This Marriage Be Saved?”-themed question in 18 episodes of the show. So if you watch tonight, for instance, you’ll see host Carnie Wilson ask a question based on our column. Fun!
Watch tonight at 6/5c on GSN to see one of our LHJ-themed questions (and then see if the newlywed couples can sync up on their answers).
April 13, 2010 at 5:18 pm , by Khalil Hymore
Since I spend the better part of my days cooking, writing and talking about food, the LAST thing I want to do after work is watch any food TV. I prefer to unwind with an episode of Damages (Love Glenn Close!) or The Real Housewives of New York City (Gab and I are both hooked). There are, however, some exceptions:
Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution – The former Naked Chef is on a mission to teach the West Virginia town of Huntington (and America) how to eat better and (hopefully) live longer, healthier lives. As the first episode points out, this is no small feat. The town seems quite fond of its artery-clogging ways. The show is gripping, not for what it exposes (a town addicted to processed foods), but that it is exposing it on national television during prime time. Jamie Oliver and producer Ryan Seacrest are not mining new territory here. At this point most of us already know that we are a fast food nation—still it’s nice to see somebody actually attempt to change it. Plus, the fact that the show is highly entertaining to watch can only help the cause. (Jaime showing a group of youngsters how chicken nuggets are made was enlightening.) It’s obvious that Chef Oliver is dedicated to this issue and I hope he succeeds, for all our sakes.
Top Chef Masters – I’m more than happy to bend my “no food TV” rule at home for Top Chef. As an admitted reality show addict (I’ll watch anything on Bravo), I love Top Chef because it’s great TV that just happens to be about cooking. Plus, I used to work for Tom Colicchio and I have a ton of respect for the man. That being said, the new season of Top Chef Masters (sans Colicchio) may be my favorite incarnation of the cooking competition franchise yet. It’s mind boggling to watch famous chefs (ones that I admire greatly) scrambling around the kitchen in their clogs like a bunch of culinary novices.
Food, Inc. – If you never saw this Academy Award-nominated film in the theater then tune into POV on PBS at 9 p.m. on April 21. I promise you won’t be sorry. Food, Inc. asks, “How much do we really know about the food we buy at our local supermarkets and serve to our families?” The movie sets out to answer this seemingly-basic question by exploring issues like factory farming, genetic engineering, cloning and pesticides. As the old saying goes, “You are what you eat.” As someone who considers himself fairly knowledgeable about the food world around him, even I was stunned by what I didn’t know about the food I eat.
Ok, now back to your regularly scheduled broadcasting: Jill said WHAT to Bethenny?