6 Mood Boosters for Sex
Your day began at 6 a.m. and you haven't stopped running since then. In fact, the past week has been a treadmill of activity, from grocery shopping, to meetings at work, to drinks with friends, and dinner with family. It's Friday night, and you're beat. But if you could just muster the right mood, you'd be up for a little frolic under the sheets before pulling up the covers. Here are six tricks that can help spark your flame.1. De-compress and de-stress.
Residual stress from the week can hold you back from fully enjoying yourself. To release the tension and prepare for pleasure, take a few minutes to just breathe. Take a seat in your favorite chair, and rest both feet lightly on the ground. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. "To breathe properly, when you inhale, your abdomen should protrude, not your chest. When you exhale, your abdomen should flatten," explains Cynthia Perkins, author of Smoldering Embers: Hot Erotic Stories and Sex Tips to Light a Couple's Fire (Writers Club Press, 2003). "Focus your mind completely on your breath," Perkins says. "This will calm and soothe the body, mind, and spirit."2. Dress for sex.
Lingerie stores exist for a reason. Sexy lingerie can quickly and easily get you out of work mode, mom mode, or just-plain-tired mode and right into sex-kitten mode. "With the busy, fast-paced life most women live and the many roles they play, sexual identity often gets lost in the shuffle," Perkins says. Besides slipping into something more comfortable, Perkins suggests slipping out of something, too. "You can also feel incredibly sexy by going without your bra or underwear throughout your day," she says.3. Practice makes perfect.
Kegel exercises are tricky to master, but they're worth the effort. By strengthening the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle that supports the vagina (among other areas), you can heighten your sexual pleasure. The standard way to find the PC muscle is by stopping the urine flow when you're going to the bathroom. To practice, tighten the muscle at any time during the day and hold for about five seconds. Try to work it up to 20 minutes a day.