Rediscover Your Spiritual Self
Sit quietly. The process of cultivating spiritual intelligence begins in solitude and silence. "Most spiritual traditions involve an inner wisdom," says Dean Ornish, MD, the pioneering cardiologist who incorporates spiritual intelligence into his mind-body therapies. "It speaks clearly, but very softly."
To tune in to its whisper, you have to turn down the volume in your busy, noisy, complicated life and force yourself to do nothing at all. Start small by creating islands of silence in your day. In the car, instead of reaching for the radio dial, use the time to reflect. At work, shut the door to your office between meetings, take a few deep breaths, and let them out very, very slowly. At home, create a quiet space for yourself. Take a few minutes each day, perhaps before dinner, to rest your eyes. Savor the stillness in your home after the kids are finally in bed.
Step outside. For many people, nature sets their spirit free. "Being outdoors gives us a sense of timelessness," says Stoltz. "It puts the hassles of daily living into perspective."
Go outside to watch a beautiful sunset. If you're walking the dog, take the time to admire an azalea bush in bloom. Follow the flight of a bird; watch clouds float overhead. Gaze into the night sky and think of the stars as holes in the darkness letting heaven shine through.
Find an activity you enjoy. Because so much of her work as a librarian involves mental labor, Dawn Work, 38, of Des Moines, needed a less cerebral way to tap in to her spirit. "I'm no good at meditation, so I've learned how to weave," she says. "To me, it's a means of getting to know myself."
It's important to find a hobby like Work's that helps you tune in to your spirit. Garden, walk or jog, arrange flowers, listen to music that touches your soul.
Ask questions of yourself. Some people use their contemplative time to focus on a line of Scripture. Others ask open-ended questions, such as "What am I feeling? What are my choices? Where am I heading?"
But don't expect an answer to arrive via some supernatural form of e-mail. "Rarely do I get an immediate answer to my questions," says the Reverend Joan Carter, a Presbyterian minister in Sausalito, California. "But later that day I suddenly find myself thinking about a problem from a perspective I never considered before."
Trust your spirit. Paula Luedtke, 47, had been hoping to heal a breach with her 26-year-old daughter. One day last summer, a woman telephoned her and said, "Mom?" For a moment Luedtke thought it might be her own daughter. When she discovered that it was a wrong number, she told the caller that she hadn't talked to her daughter for 10 years. "This stranger said, 'You should call her right now.' I realized I had just been sent a message: I called my daughter, and we talked for two hours."
Spiritual intelligence can speak not just through others, but through your own body. "Often, I feel a relaxation in my stomach," says Dawn Work. "I just know that something is right."