"While I Was Trying to Get Pregnant, He Was Having an Affair"
Her Turn, continued
"I felt as if a bomb had dropped on me. I didn't know what to do, so I called my parents. As an only child, I've always been close to them, especially my mom. They have a great marriage -- I've never once heard them fight. My dad, a factory worker, was always very conservative and overprotective, but he only wanted the best for me. I went to Catholic schools, rarely disobeyed my parents, and even lived at home for the first two years of college. It was a big deal for me to move into my own apartment with a girlfriend when I was a junior.
"I met Brent not long after I began my first job at the investment bank where I still work. His friend was dating a woman in my office. They came by to pick her up, and he and I chatted for several minutes. I thought he was adorable, but when he asked for my phone number, I hesitated. I was nervous about giving my number out to a stranger. Instead, I asked for his and promised to call. He doubted I would, but he was wrong. We had our first date on Valentine's Day.
"We discovered we had similar values and backgrounds. But while I tend to be super serious, Brent is Mr. Social, and his fun side brought out my own. After dating for a year, we got married at my parents' church. His parents live a few minutes from mine, and both families have become close. Our holiday celebrations always include everyone.
"A nice life, or so I thought. Now it feels like a big lie. I love Brent and believe that marriage is forever. But how can I trust him?"