By Dorothy Foltz-Gray
Your husband's worried because it's dark and he doesn't know the friends or all the neighbors. You do—and you feel your child is ready.
Solutions: Agree on baby steps
"It's not an all-or-nothing deal," says Carleton Kendrick, Ed.M., LCSW, author of Take Out Your Nose Ring, Honey, We're Going to Grandma's. "Break the event into components," he says. For instance, ask your child to check in every seventh house. Arm him with a cell phone and a time to return. Know the child's route. Deciding those details together can calm a nervous parent and make an eager child feel safer.
But Grolnick cautions, "If one parent feels very strongly, the other has to respect that. There's no right or wrong answer."