Homework Temper Tantrums
Dealing with Your Angry Child
If she persists in her anger, even after you attempt to find a compromise, give your daughter time to calm down, but let her know that tantrums do not exempt her from her homework or practice. However, never tell her, "There's no reason to be angry" or something similar; this shows a disregard for her feelings, which will only add to her anger and frustration. Finally, try not to become angry with her, or if you do, don't show it. It will only intensify her already hot emotions, like throwing fuel onto a fire.
No one can think rationally or reasonably when they are emotional and out-of-control, and trying to get your daughter to practice or complete assignments is futile when her emotions are so high. When she flies into a tantrum, don?t desert her. Stay with her and talk her down from her hysteria. This allows her intense feelings to subside, freeing her up to think through the situation at hand. This approach should work in other situations that lead to temper tantrums.
Finally, evaluate the stress your daughter is under. First grade is a challenging time. It's when children learn to read, write, and do math, while also learning how to manage themselves socially, be it in the classroom, on the playground, or on the school bus. All of this can be very stressful for a 6- or 7-year-old. The completion of homework is an additional task that is not only experientially new, but can range from the mundane (practicing penmanship) to the complicated (mastering addition and subtraction). By evaluating your daughter's stress level, you can gain a better understanding of what may really be at the root of her frustration and anger.