How to Be a Cool Prom Mom
2 Weeks Before
Be supportive of her date. It might be her long-term boyfriend. It might be that mystery guy who calls late at night. It might be a name you've never heard before. Finding a prom date is your daughter's number one stressor, so be understanding. Try to get the scoop, but refrain from asking nosy questions (the ones that elicit "Mo-om!"). If possible, ask to meet him once before the prom.
Get her plan for the night. Discuss your daughter's post-prom plans. Activities usually range from dancing at a club to attending a school-sponsored event. Let her know you're available to drive anytime and will be home all night in case of an emergency. Taryn says moms should understand prom's significance: "Parents have to know that prom isn't a regular Friday or Saturday night."
Address the hotel issue. If your daughter wants to stay at a hotel, parenting expert Jan Faull, MEd, suggests you discuss your feelings with her. If you feel uncomfortable allowing her to stay at a hotel, be honest. "Explain that you want them to be together for the night; it sounds like fun. You just want to make sure that there is some parental supervision and that they are safe," Faull says. "It's because you love them, not because you want to control every aspect of their lives, which is what they'll think unless you clarify your motives."
As a compromise, offer to have the group (boys included) sleep in your basement, Faull recommends. Taryn and her prom pals all slept over at one friend's house and had a great time.