The Mama's Boy Myth
Three Moms Weigh In
- Everyone always said they could only imagine me with daughters because I'm a total girly-girl. But I ended up with four boys and I've adapted quite nicely. I play football, baseball, and basketball in high-heeled clogs and I tell my little men all about Bobbi Brown lipgloss. I teach them about recipes and cakes and cookies and icing and sprinkles. I show them a female perspective because someday girlfriends will be coming through our door, and I want my sons to know something besides "boy stuff."
Audrey McClelland, Providence, Rhode Island
- I love all of my children fiercely and equally, but my relationship with my two sons has been more even-keeled, whereas my daughter and I became close only after surviving a rough patch during her teen years. At times she seemed determined to push me away. I actually think that was because she's a girl. She needed to separate from me and figure out her own identity as a woman.
Holly Cookson, Rowley, Massachusetts
- I'm close with both my kids but in different ways. My daughter is 15, so I understand what she's going through in adolescence. But I actually have more in common with my son, who's 17. We're both major film buffs; anytime I want to see a movie, he's up for going. My daughter is athletic, and she and her dad bond over softball. (He's her coach.) My son and I bond over a matinee and a bucket of popcorn!
Joanne Hubbard, Omaha, Nebraska
Kate Stone Lombardi lives with her husband and two cats in Chappaqua, New York. This essay is adapted from The Mama's Boy Myth by Kate Stone Lombardi. Copyright © 2012 by Kate Stone Lombardi. Reprinted with permission of Avery, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc., New York, New York.