Relationship Q&A: He Undermines My Authority
Q. My husband keeps letting the kids do things I've forbidden. How can I get him to stop?
Jenn Berman, Psy.D., a psychotherapist in Beverly Hills, California, answers:
A. The two of you need to come up with a joint child-rearing philosophy. Draft a list of your five most common discipline problems and agree upon a solution for each. Neither of you should invoke a different consequence for any of those misbehaviors without first consulting the other.
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