The Big Questions

Questions, Questions

When it comes to relationships, psychologist Dr. Judith Sills says that there are two kinds of people: askers and non-askers. "Askers ask way too early -- on date three they'll ask 'What do you think about children and what religion should they be raised in?'" Non-askers ask way too late, if at all, so after the wedding they'll say 'What do you mean you were married before?'" says Sills, author of the forthcoming If The Horse is Dead, Get Off (Viking, 2004).

Small queries can lead to big answers when looking for a life mate -- here's a brief guide to what to ask, and when.