Are Your Fighting Styles In Sync?
Signs in Sync
But even if we just do it for a laugh, clearly a lot of us adore looking at our love charts. So what if the truth is up there? Could we be helping our relationships with some interplanetary prodding?
"If you truly look at the chart of your mate and compare each planet with your own chart, you'll find some very deep, very accurate information," says Stacey Dean, a Chicago-based certified member of the American Federation of Astrologers, who writes a newsletter column for the Delphi Associates, an organization for metaphysical professionals. "Once you find out where your issues lie, I like to say that awareness is preparedness, and knowledge is power -- you have an idea of what your pitfalls might be, and you can concentrate on making those areas better."
In other words, she says, "If you know you're going to have conflict around one area, you can change how you approach it, communicate about it, and find ways to resolve the issue just as you would with any other conflict."
So you're not necessarily star-crossed lovers just because your chart forecasts stormy relationship weather. And believe it or not, non-astrologist therapists don't turn their nose up at this stuff, either. "If you look at the horoscopes of you and your husband, and it serves as a jumping-off point for a discussion about your relationship, then that's great," says Joel D. Block, PhD, a therapist and the author of Naked Intimacy: How to Increase True Openness in Your Relationship (McGraw-Hill, 2002). "Relationships need energy, and talking is the best source of it. Shutting down is the kiss of death."
Of course, he warns against getting too caught up in the music of the spheres. "The answers to your problems are going to be found in your partner, not in a chart," he warns. "If that's your only source of relationship information, you might have your head in the clouds."