He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
Did They Succeed?
Jim: Dr. Hester helped me realize that I have "an antenna problem." I don't pick up on Cheryl's emotional needs. I have to pay more attention to what she says.
Cheryl: Jim is so thoughtful and romantic now. Every anniversary he takes me away for a long weekend -- we're like honeymooners again!
Jim: And every night we spend at least a few minutes alone together sharing thoughts and telling each other about our day.
Cheryl: He unplugs the phone, turns off the computer, and I get his undivided attention. Last January during one of those talks, I told him I was sad he was going to Las Vegas alone for the international Shot Show. [Jim's an expert marksman.]
Jim: Before counseling, I wouldn't have heard how upset Cheryl was. But this time I asked her to brainstorm with me about how we could solve the problem. The Shot Show was over Valentine's weekend, so we decided to go together and renew our vows at the Chapel of the Bells.
Cheryl: I called it our Shotgun Wedding! It was the perfect way to show how much our relationship has grown. We've never been happier.