She Felt He Let Her Down
Did They Succeed?
Mike: Last spring, I completed a master's degree in education. And this fall, I started a full-time job as a high-school English teacher. Kathleen: I'm so proud of Mike. It's difficult for anybody to work and go to school at night, but it's even more difficult for someone with ADHD. Mike: I've turned my life around, and I'm so much happier.
Kathleen: Mike is a new man! He now does his share around the house, and he's more goal oriented and responsible. Mike: In therapy, I accepted that I had to change and then learned how to get organized and manage my time better. Ritalin, which I'll probably take for the rest of my life, has improved my concentration. Kathleen: The new Mike is much better at communicating, so we argue less than we used to. Mike: Kathleen has changed, too. She has accepted that I have an actual disorder and that sometimes she needs to adjust the way she talks to me. Kathleen: I've learned to be more patient and to adapt my communication style. I used to become frustrated when he asked me to slow down or repeat something. Changing wasn't easy, but it's been worth it. We continue to work hard at our marriage because we love each other so much.