She Wanted Him to Grow Up
Did They Succeed?
Mike: Back when we got married, I just wanted to kick up my heels. But having fun with Jackie means something different now that we've brought up kids together.
Jackie: Counseling helped me realize that Mike wasn't the only one who had some growing up to do. I needed to face the financial reality of having kids. We now have two wonderful sons, Douglas, 19, and Jamie, 15. When the boys were little, I agreed to work the night shift, and Mike worked the day shift, so we never had to put the kids in daycare, which was important to me.
Mike: It wasn't easy, but it was definitely worth it.
Now, Jackie works from home processing insurance claims, and Mike has moved up to supervisor at his company. Mike was recently diagnosed with Ménière's Disease, a disturbance of the inner ear that causes extreme dizziness, nausea, and hearing loss. The disease can be progressive and there is no cure.
Mike: Jackie's support has made this disease bearable; she lets me talk about my fears and frustrations. She's just there for me.
Jackie: We'll take this one step at a time, together as always. I learned over the years that give and take is what it means to be in a healthy, adult relationship.
Mike: We've been having a lot more fun lately, too, with the boys old enough to stay home alone or with relatives. We took a trip to Las Vegas last year, and we'd like to make it an annual event. A lot of my friends have gotten divorced. I feel so lucky that Jackie and I have stayed together -- and that we got past that immature stage. We've grown up together, and we'll be together till death do us part.