They Worried They Had Grown Apart

Where They Are Today

Stuart: We're much less uptight these days. Before counseling, we never really listened to one another during arguments, so even if we made up, we never accomplished anything.

Roni: These days if we disagree, I do everything I can to let go of my anger instead of stewing until I explode. Meditation helps -- I do it at least once, sometimes twice a day for 10 minutes.

Stuart: Now I can sit and talk about things that used to cause major fights, especially finances. For example, with our retirement plan, we figured out how to cut expenses together, as a couple. And did we need such a big house now that our kids are on their own? We agreed, instead, that it made sense to sell the house and buy a condo nearby.

Roni: And I'm much better about cutting back on what I spend...

Stuart:...except when it comes to our two granddaughters.

Roni: Well, that doesn't count. What really matters is Stuart never used to share his feelings -- or for that matter, listen to mine. Now he does. And he's also developed a terrific sense of humor. He makes me laugh all the time.

Stuart: What can I say? She's my lover and my best friend.