Insider Tips for Men

10 things women want men to know.
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On certain issues, men and women are going to have to agree to disagree. For instance, women will never, ever laugh at The Three Stooges; men will never, ever cry at Dirty Dancing.

But overall, men and women are not all that different. If you think about it, everyone's needs are fundamentally human: some affection, some solitude, some partnership, some independence.

The problem is, once men and women start saying they don't understand each other, we're likely to give up trying -- and that gets us nowhere. So, to make things easy for everyone, here are the 10 top things that women say they want men to know. The news, I might add, is good: Women are not nearly as needy, chatty, or mysterious as men think, thank you very much. So why not print out this article and happen to leave it lying, say, near someone's Three Stooges DVD?

1. We do not need to hear you say, "I'll call you," if you don't plan to, says Leora, a single New Yorker. Bottom line, most women would rather be let down than lied to. Though to be fair, women white-lie the same way, saying "Let's have lunch!" to acquaintances we know we won't make time for. That's because "I'll call you" and its cousins serve as WD-40 for that awkward goodbye. So the trick, gentlemen, is to come up with an alternate graceful out, such as, "Thanks for a really nice evening." Yes, even if that's a lie. (Bonus tip: If you are going to call, "Waiting three days does not make us like you better," says Cara, a single Manhattanite.)

2. If you're busy, we prefer getting a quick e-mail saying so rather than being left to wonder why you've dropped off the face of the earth, says Beth, a single woman currently studying in France. If you're slammed at work this week and can't give us the attention you'd like to, we'll live -- all we want is a heads-up. We don't need to talk all the time; a brief call or e-mail saying you'll check in next week is not rude, it's thoughtful. (As long as you actually do it.)

3. Even if you're not a world champion plan-maker, every effort is appreciated -- we don't want to feel like the social secretary of the relationship, says Eve, an attached New Yorker. Yes, we like some control in this area, but we're also...tired. Which means that, as generous as it sounds, hearing "Whatever you want to do!" rarely turns us on. But really, no pressure: Generally, we prefer fun to fancy.

4. You shouldn't be offended if weI don't jump right in with both feet, says Gail, a single woman in New Jersey. "Some women just need more time than others." Relax -- we need time and space, too. If we're hanging back, it doesn't mean we're testing you or playing games, or that we don't like you. We might just need a chance to figure out how we feel as things run their course. (Or we might just be slammed at work. Sound familiar?)

5. When we're mad at you, don't try to hug and kiss us. We want to punch you, says Kris, an Austin, Texas, single. Men have been raised to fear the stereotypical Angry Woman. But trying to plaster over our rage with smooches will only make actual steam come out our ears. Letting us be mad -- even fighting back -- is actually the best way to calm things down.

Continued on page 2:  5 More Things Women Want Men to Know


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