7 Kinds of Sex Every Couple Needs
A great way to reduce stress, feel healthy, and maintain a strong relationship with your partner is by keeping a close eye on your sex life. It only takes a few adjustments to spice things up. Just remember: Keep it fun and within your own boundaries.1. There's always time for a quickie
Stop rolling your eyes. The quickie can be fun if you're creative and have the right attitude. After all, sex experts agree that the more sex you have, the more you want it. "Lots of sex begets more sex because you stay connected," said Dr. Laura Berman, director of the Berman Center in Chicago and author of Real Sex for Real Women. And when couples physically express their desire for each other often, it enhances intimacy. So when the kids are on their way home with Grandma in tow and the spaghetti sauce is about to boil over, grab your guy and show him what real "shock and awe" feels like. Head down into the laundry room and make love standing up against the washing machine. You don't even have to take off all your clothes. If you've been together for a long time, an erotic sneak attack is a surprise he'll be daydreaming about at work for weeks to come.2. Glory Days: They haven't passed you by
Remember the times early in your relationship when you were so smitten with each other you couldn't make it to the bedroom before your clothes were ripped off? Sometimes maybe you couldn't even make it out of the car. Next time you're on the way home from an outing, prepare ahead and slip on some sexy lingerie. When the car is safely parked in the garage, jump into the backseat and seduce him the way you did back then (only now you know exactly which erotic buttons to push). Don't put the brakes on just because your sweetie drives a Prius, or a Smart Car. They come equipped with hoods too. Cars may not be your nostalgic sexual hideout, but you can still shake things up by visiting any former smooching spot you frequented early in your relationship. This strategy is sure to rekindle those magical feelings of uncontrollable desire, unless that spot was your in-laws' rumpus room...3. Let the games begin
Sometimes it's difficult to convince your partner to try new things, but if you're stuck in the old missionary-position-only-after-lights-out rut, it's time break out of your old routine and kick it up a notch. Start out by visiting an adult novelty store. Kathy, a busy mom on Long Island, tells of a particularly fun anniversary outing with her husband of 16 years. "We went into Manhattan for dinner and passed by an 'adult' store. We had never seen so many, ah, interesting marital aids that we ended up holding on to each other to keep from falling down because we were giggling so much. Like teenagers!" The couple sampled some of the store's wares and truly had an anniversary to remember. You don't have to buy a complete dominatrix getup (not all of us can pull off Madonna's look without looking ridiculous). Just invest in some fun games such as "sex dice," where you roll the dice and do as the dice tell you. Or there are "sex coupons" for him and her in which couples may redeem certain activities stated on the coupon when the mood strikes. If you don't live in a big metropolitan area, get together on the computer and check out sex expert Berman's Web site: www.drlauraberman.com. (The site offers sex advice and adult novelty toys -- not porn). Sex should be fun, so go ahead and play.