In Perfect Harmony: Vince Gill & Amy Grant
The Interview, continued
LHJ: Do you two ever fight?
Vince: We don't yell. I've got a bad temper, which is my cross to bear. But when we were just married, we got sideways about something and just as she was getting ready to unload I said, "Just wait one second." The look on your face [turning to Amy] was priceless. I said, "Let's just let this settle for one second before you say a bunch of stuff you can't take back and really isn't worth saying. I've done all the yelling and screaming I want to do in my life." It worked. It forced us into a pattern of communicating instead of yelling.
LHJ: Even over silly stuff like messes?
Vince: I am kind of messy. I like things organized, but I don't know how to accomplish it.
Amy: We're definitely even there. He's a little bit more of a perfectionist, though, and nothing in me is about details. I'm more of a planner, though. Don't you think, Vince?
Vince: Yeah, I'm more "in the moment."
Amy: We'll wake up in the morning, we're lying in bed, and I'll say, "I've got my to-do list for today." [Amy gasps] Speaking of which, what time is it?
LHJ: It's 2:35.
Amy: We have to pick up Corrina at 3!
Vince: Okay, we've got time.
Amy: I'll leave by saying I've never imagined things being better than right now. I've seen blended families that try to all wow each other right away. All we said was, Here we are. All under the same roof. Eventually you make a place in your heart for everybody.
Originally published in Ladies' Home Journal, November 2006.